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3 months since D day. Things have been up and down. WS is still working with OM. They had a business trip with 6 other co workers planned before I caught her. She had said she was not going to go. It is tommorrow and she just e-mailed me and said she has decided to go. <P>T think they are still having the affair. I want to aviod LB's but I feel like it is over now. I have been the only one working on this. and I am TIRED. I don't know whether to tell her not to come back from the trip. Or just aviod her phnoe calls while she is gone. or tell her we will get a divorce when she gets back. What do I do. <P>OM wife doesn't know. should I tell her. Any advice would help.
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{confused/hurt}...<P>I know Plan A is tiring...<P>...but in the long run... no matter what happens... it will have benefited you.<P>If you are really at the end of your rope...<P>...contact Steve or Jenn at MB counseling...<BR>...draft your Plan B letter...<BR>...let us review it if you like...<P>...start thinking about what it would feel like to <B>not</B> be married.<P>If that is too much for you...<BR>...hang in on Plan A for a while longer.<P>About the OM's W...<BR>...in general it is something your W will take as a huge LB...<BR>...since in all likelihood she will find out you told her... unless you have other means to inform OM's W.<BR>...but this is a moral issue (BTW... I did tell the OM's W... and it did me no good... but gave her closure... and led to their divorce)<P> ![[Linked Image from marriagebuilders.com]](http://www.marriagebuilders.com/forum/images/icons/smile.gif) <P>Jim
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