I just found out today that my husband has had a phone relationship with someone. He says its only been going on for a few weeks, he says he hasn't dated her or had sex. He travels Mon-Friday and is only home on weekends. He confessed only because I confronted him about a suspicious phone number on his cell phone-I confronted him 4 times before he confessed. Now that I know the truth, I'm not sure what I feel. We had a wonderful weekend planned and now I'm ready to cancel plans because I don't even want to see him. I'm also wondering how many other things he has lied about and if he's even telling the truth about the nature of the relationship he says he ended yesterday.

Sorry to hear about what happened. I also found out 2 weeks ago that my wife was having an affair by repeated numbers on her cell bill and when confronted she also denied it at first until I basically harassed her to give me the truth. The truth hurts a lot but being lied to first and then being told the truth is hurts more and you should tell your husband this. The one thing that has helped me a lot get through this so far is reading all the articles in this web site regarding infedelity. hang in there and be strong. We have begun counseling and it seems to have helped a little allready. Good luck and God be with you.

Welcome <B>DCDenise</B>...<P>There is a post of general welcome I wish to share with you... <P>It has a lot of quick links to many of the <B>most</B> important MB sites...<BR>Click here ==> <A HREF="http://www.marriagebuilders.com/forum/Forum29/HTML/000553.html" TARGET=_blank>General Welcome for All New Builders(Newbies)</A><P><B>About your post</B>...<P>About your plans...<P>Don't you dare cancel them...<BR>...don't start in the wrong direction...<BR>...head in the <B>right</B> direction...<P>Do start on a <A HREF="http://www.marriagebuilders.com/graphic/mbi8113_ab.html" TARGET=_blank>Plan A</A>...<BR>Check out my post <A HREF="http://www.marriagebuilders.com/forum/Forum30/HTML/000176.html" TARGET=_blank>Plan A - 101 (2nd ed.)</A>.<P>To that end...<BR>...speak honestly and lovingly with your H about the relationship.<P>As malaysia says...<BR>...get into counseling...<BR>I would recommend that you have a couple of <A HREF="http://www.marriagebuilders.com/graphic/mbi7200_phone.html" TARGET=_blank>telephone counseling sessions</A> (~$95US a pop... but well worth it) with <A HREF="http://www.marriagebuilders.com/graphic/mbi7010_about.html" TARGET=_blank>Steven W. Harley</A> or Jennifer Harley. Check out the <A HREF="http://www.marriagebuilders.com/graphic/mbi7000_counsel.html" TARGET=_blank>Counseling Center</A>... and for some specifics... <A HREF="http://www.marriagebuilders.com/graphic/mbi7015_fee.html" TARGET=_blank>Fees for Counseling Services</A> and <A HREF="http://www.marriagebuilders.com/graphic/mbi7020_sched.html" TARGET=_blank>Scheduling an Appointment</A> (888-639-1639)!<BR>(BTW: they are <B>out</B> this week... but will be back sometime next week)<P>Check out these related sites:<BR><A HREF="http://www.wildxangel.com/" TARGET=_blank>What They're Not Telling You - Or How to Read Between the Lies!!</A><BR><A HREF="http://www.chatcheaters.com" TARGET=_blank>Internet Infidelity Prevention, Detection, Advice and Books</A><BR><A HREF="http://netaddiction.com/" TARGET=_blank>Center for On-Line Addiction</A><P><B>You are not alone</B>!<P> <P><A HREF="http://www.marriagebuilders.com/forum/Forum29/HTML/000254.html" TARGET=_blank>Jim</A> / <A HREF="http://www.marriagebuilders.com/forum/Forum29/HTML/000037.html" TARGET=_blank>NSR</A>