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Yesterday morning I had a very vivid and disturbing dream. My husband's girl friend had come over to my house to help me pack up and move out. I was very upset by this and shared the dream with my husband of 15 yrs.<BR>He asked me what the GF looked like, and said "well you know there is a girl friend... but she doesn't look like that.<BR>He met her on the internet and says it's become quite serious. He hadn't planned on telling me, but he felt he could no longer deceive me. He feels our marriage has been over for a long time and has pursued relationships with other women before. I knew he was unhappy, but he always attributed it to his unhappiness at work, or with his side projects.etc. He doesn't seem to know what he wants...he doesn't want to "screw-up" the kids or loose everything we've built together. I'm devastated and bereft. I don't know what I want and it seems that choices are being made for me. I never ever thought he'd cheat; does everybody?!
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I also considered my marriage to be 'immune' to an affair. I knew that my husband and I had our problems, but I never in a million years would have thought that he could ever EVER turn to another woman.<BR>Since I found out (1 month ago) I've been devastated, and have been turning wherever I could for support. In doing so I've been amazed to discover just how many people this has happened to.<BR>I've also been amazed to discover just how many people have survived an affair in their marriage and survived with an even stronger relationship.<BR>It helps I think to know that I'm not alone, and that there are people out there that can totally relate to all the things I think and feel over this. <BR>It also gives me hope to know that a marriage can survive, and even be better than it was if both parties are willing to do what it takes to get there.<BR>Keep posting, you've found an amazing support group here - these people are firm, but gentle, and have a wealth of caring advice.<P>Good luck to you<BR>
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My husband met the OW on the internet too - and boy some of your post sounds like my story! They did meet twice - had to fly two hours -yikes!<BR>SO - now - almost a year later. We are together. No contact with OW for 7 months.<BR>We still have a long way to go - a LONG way to go, but I feel it will be worth it.<BR>Keep coming here!
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Get & read the book "Surviving an AFfair" asap...can get it here on this site, at Amazon, or many bookstores.<P>Good luck--<P>Kathi<P>
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