In case anyone was following my story, I'm giving up. He is not prepared to give up OW (my best friend). 2 days ago he said he would stay with me, but he just can't stop thinking of her and refuses to break off contact. I am sick of being on this rollercoaster, and I am taking 2 weeks holiday, taking my daughter (4) to my sister's and just getting out. It isn't fair on Emily to see me always crying and I can't be around him any more.<BR>I'm afraid I don't know how this fits in with plans A and B, all I know is he is convinced that he loves her and he is so cold to me I can't bear it any more.<BR>E. in UK

I just read up the plans again (nothing stays in my mind for long right now), and realised I seem to be following Plan B. At least, I am removing myself from the scene. I really don't have any longer term view than just getting away, being with people who love me, care about me, and would never ever hurt me like this. Still, it's nice to know it is a plan!<P>E in UK.

{{{Dido}}}...<P>For some...<BR>...it is just impossible (by their nature) to do much of a Plan A...<P>I really would recommend the route of some anti-depressants (even though there is the stigma in your country)...<BR>...but if you really can't go on...<P>...Give Plan A just <B>one</B> week...<BR>...while you figure out the logistics of Plan B...<BR>...write the Plan B letter...<BR>...get a review from the good folks on these forums...<BR>...and move it only then.<P>Check out my posts...<A HREF="http://www.marriagebuilders.com/forum/Forum30/HTML/000177.html" TARGET=_blank>Plan B - 101 (2nd ed.)</A> and <A HREF="http://www.marriagebuilders.com/forum/Forum30/HTML/000413.html" TARGET=_blank>Plan B - 201</A>.<P>Hey...<BR>...you haven't heard it in a while...<BR>...but...<BR>...<B>you are loved</B>!<P>Stay here during your Plan B.<P> <P>Jim