My wife and I have been married for only 4 months. We were having some problems and she wanted to move out. I was trying to use all the ideas I have found on this site with no luck. She told me today she doesn't want to be married anymore because she doesn't love me anymore. I also found out today that there is another man she is with and that's who she said she wants to be with. what should I do?

Welcome <B>wrngler</B>...<P>There is a post of general welcome I wish to share with you... <P>It has a lot of quick links to many of the <B>most</B> important MB sites...<BR>Click here ==> <A HREF="http://www.marriagebuilders.com/forum/Forum29/HTML/000553.html" TARGET=_blank>General Welcome for All New Builders(Newbies)</A><P><B>About your post</B>...<P>Do start on a <A HREF="http://www.marriagebuilders.com/graphic/mbi8113_ab.html" TARGET=_blank>Plan A</A>...<BR>Check out my post <A HREF="http://www.marriagebuilders.com/forum/Forum30/HTML/000176.html" TARGET=_blank>Plan A - 101 (2nd ed.)</A>.<P>No matter what you can't force your W to do anything you want!<P>You have to work on you... now!<BR>Plan A gives you the chance to do that.<P> <P><A HREF="http://www.marriagebuilders.com/forum/Forum29/HTML/000254.html" TARGET=_blank>Jim</A> / <A HREF="http://www.marriagebuilders.com/forum/Forum29/HTML/000037.html" TARGET=_blank>NSR</A>

I'm sorry this happened to you. I just had the same thing happen to me. My husband started acting funny after 2 months of marriage, after 7.5 years of being together on an off - and suddenly decided he didn't want "what I needed or wanted" - he isn't good enough for me. He managed to push me away - having other girls contacting him and I think now he is sexually involved with other women. I threw him out and its been a month and feeling much better now. Its true - you can't make someone else love you/ want what you want/ stay with you. It really hurts I know, and I know alot of people are probably telling you this but time will heal. If you decide to stay then it will be alot of work. I personally could not allow myself to fight for a marriage when he had committed adulter. In my eyes that is the ultimate beteray of the vows. I wish you the best. And remember, sometimes there are reasons for awful things happening. Keep your chin up - and let me know if you need help. <P>God bless.<P>------------------<BR>sad and worried