Hi I have had an affair, well not sex but everything else. I'm really scared that my marriage is over. My husband is awesome and I really do love him, but the passion was never there. I'm 20 years old and I know he is the one but, my old boyfriend came back into my life and I still have feelings for him. I don't want to mess things up with my husband but on the other hand I'm still in love with my old boyfriend. AHHH what should I do. Do you believe there are two soul mates for you? Please help somebody. I'm so confused!!!!!!!

I think you are very young Leslie. I have a couple of questions. Why did you marry your husband if you felt there was no passion?<BR>Do you wish to stay married? There must have been a reason why your ex boyfriend was your ex boyfriend. I would suggest that if you wish to stay married that your inform your husband immediately what has happened, cut all contact with your ex boyfriend and seek couples marriage counseling immediately. Why would you want to inflict this pain about your husband? How would you feel if your husband informed you that he did everything but sex with his ex girlfriend but still loves you? You made a committment to a marriage. You will be confronted with temptation for the rest of your life. You are very young and I would guess that you need to <BR>work on your maturity. Try to do things in your life that make you feel good about yourself as a person. You need to make a choice how you wish to conduct your life and how you conduct yourself in a marriage. If you cannot be true to your husband and respect him; then you should let him go so he can find someone who can commit to him and love him. You need to make a choice.