This evening, I'm low. This is the place to hang out awhile. I'm doing this instead of:<BR>-buying a bottle of JD to numb my sorrows<BR>-emailing OW, whom I've cut off for nearly two weeks.<BR>I am taking a male friend out for pie and coffee. Can't talk to him about my particular problem, however. So I talk to you-all.<BR>Counselor said this past week sounds that W and I have been emotionally divorce for nearly 8 years. Living together, functioning together, but 'not together' much emotionally. And I feel that intensely now. That's one thing that led me to OW. We're both trying to make things go, don't want divorce, but I honestly don't seem to have much emotional attachment for W. I've told counselor that if W and I separated today, I probably wouldn't miss her that much, and could live pretty well without her.<BR>I hate to sound like I'm whining, but this really bothers me. Does anyone else out there have similar feelings? Is there anything I can do to change how I feel? I hate to think that I might spend the rest of my life living with someone I don't feel like I love, other than being concerned for her well-being. Am I selfish?<BR>Thanks for listening.<BR>Pilgrim <BR>

Hi, Pilgrim.. Sorry you're having one of those nights. And very proud of you for what you're working on.<P>I guess the only cure is time. Lots of time and effort. And there will nights like this.<P>No good advice, just wanted you to know someone was listening tonight. <P>Hang in there.<P>Lori

Yup, times like this, I understand them well...<P>Time is all you need... and whatever you do - <BR><B>DON'T EMAIL OW</B><P>I know you knew that, but it's just a reminder. Whenever even the slightest contact is initiated, it can escalate into "full blown" before you know it. Be careful. <P>It's good that you come here instead. I did the same thing during withdrawl- still do!!<P>~Sheryl

Lostva and New Beginning,<BR>Thanks for the encouragement! Withdrawal is so hard, especially when living with your partner means working through a lot of negative issues.<BR>Went to a place called Pioneer Pies and had a big piece of French Silk pie and rich coffee. Sooo good! Conversation was good with friend, and I did most of the listening! Got me off myself and my problems. I feel much more positive about things today.<BR>Have a good day, both of you!<BR>Pilgrim