This one is heavy. I just came home last night from my 6th counseling session. The counselor said that my anger was a good thing. He also said that he fully believed that from what I said my H is still having an affair. I don't want to believe that. He said so much more to me. I am like in a limbo state. So angry, so in disbelief, so unsure. The counselor can only determine this stuff by what I say. What am I doing? I could not believe I was in a counselors room, saying and hearing all of this stuff I could not believe I was talking about me and my H. I just want to hear from someone whose H could/would not fully let go of the affair. Maybe he is not really seeing her anymore and it is just in his heart. What????Someone just talk to me. Thanks I know that my God is in control of this I just want some feed back from some who have experienced this stuff.

Why is your counselor telling you this stuff? And do you believe the counselor is telling you stuff you already know and confirming it or what? I would be anxious to know only because how would the counselor know if your H was having an affair?<BR>My counselor said that my H and I both "danced" around the issue of the affair. Though I suspected and told her numerous times I thought that something was going on she said it wasn't her place to tell me about this unless I was ready to hear it from him. I am suspect about psychologist's now because the OW was one, a child psych and proud of it. Makes you wonder whats running around out there messing with our kids heads, someone who thought she could steal the father of my 4 girls away from married life. <BR>I think that this is something you need to discuss in front of the counselor WITH your H, if your ready. God Bless!<P>------------------<BR>Chick's <BR>Bren<P>You won't see things until your ready to not be blind!<P>

chicks, thanks for your words. My H does not want/need to go to the counselor. I made the decision that I needed to go to the counselor because I could not deal with his Emotional Affair(as it is called) Yes I believe that the counselor only confirmed what I am apparently feeling, because I don't feel we are going anywhere in this marriage but down hill. As the counselor said we/I am surviving not thriving in this marriage. I just wanted to know if anyone else out there was going through the same thing where their husband is not really sorry for this affair just wants to ignore that it was even there.???<BR>