HG, I think I saw someone on another forum ask if they could be you when they grow up. I want to, too!!! You say everything just the way I would like to. Thank you for your calmness and insight. <P>Love,<BR>Window<P>Dazed and Confused,<BR>Have you ever changed your opinion about anything? Do you regret anything you did when you were younger and tell young people now that they shouldn't do as you did? Just wondering. You condemn me for speaking from experience, so I guess you must have done everything perfectly your whole life. Good for you!<P>God bless you,<BR>Window

<BLOCKQUOTE><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><HR>Originally posted by HGBrawner:<BR><B>I I've yet to find someone who is pro-choice who respects my </B><B>choice</B><B> to be pro-life. <P></B><HR></BLOCKQUOTE><P>Hi<B> HGBrawner</B>, nice to meet you. I am pro-choice and I respect your choice to be pro-life.<P>I believe that the person getting an abortion has their own cross to bear, and has to make a decision in the midst of desperate circumstances that none of us in that situation understand unless we've been there. God knows their heart and soul... <P>I believe that abortion is murder. No matter when it's performed. <P>But I will tell you this. When I had the affair and slept with the OM *without* protection (only slept with him one time) I was a selfish stupid [censored] who could have brought a life into the world. I thought, for the first time in my life, about abortion. As a 40 year old wayward spouse, I would have gone through with the abortion, no doubt about it. I would have faced God and taken the punishment, not that living on this earth as a murderer wouldn't have been punishment enough to last a lifetime.<P>I believe that we have adult choices to make when we live as adults.<P>I am glad I didn't get pregnant and have to make that choice.<P>But I completely and utterly respect those who choose to keep the baby or put it up for adoption. Pro-choice is personal choice.<P>------------------<BR>~Sheryl<BR>(a bit worse for the wear, but hanging in there)<P><B>Life <I>is</I> difficult</B>.<BR><I>The Road Less Traveled</I><BR>~M. Scott Peck<p>[This message has been edited by new_beginning (edited April 22, 2001).]

Paintbox- I was where you are 2 months ago. I didn't see the MB website in time and thought that asking him to leave was my only hope. That was probably a mistake. Plan A has given me some hope. follow it as best you can and try to identify the needs that weren't being met. Then focus on the changes that will come in meeting these needs.God bless you and your H.

new_beginning<BR>I can certainly appreciate what you are saying. I hate that anyone, anywhere feels that abortion is their only choice, but I recognize that for some people that is where they end up. I honestly believe that there is room for better communication and operation on both sides of the issue. And for the record, I would never condemn or turn my back on anyone who has had an abortion. I spent some time with a young girl who was forced into an abortion this past summer and the anguish she was experiencing broke my heart. She wasn't accurately informed and felt she had no other choice but to go through with it. <P>Why can't we work harder to prevent pregnancy in the first place and offer better alternatives for women who find themselves in that position? I think people on both sides of the issue go too far in presenting their opinions and cause unneeded pain for people. It is a tragic situation.<P>If I was overly harsh in trying to ask paintbox to wait before ending her pregnancy, I apologize. As we've all seen here, it is an emotional issue. My intent was not to cause further pain but to try to get her to give it some time and to be sure this was truly the only choice she could make...to investigate the other options more fully.<P>I respect an adult's right to make their own choices and I appreciate receiving that same respect. My hope is that we all make our choices from a completely educated and rational view.<P>------------------<BR>"They that wait upon the Lord shall renew their strength. They shall mount up with wings as eagles, they shall run and not be weary, they shall walk and not faint." Isaiah 40:31

window,<BR>Thanks for the compliment....I really appreciate it. What I hope comes through in my posts is not my own wisdom or compassion, but wisdom and compassion that come from Jesus using me as a vessel. I mean that in the most sincere and honest way possible. Any ability I have to write or offer encouragement or anything else here comes from what He has done for me. And I still say stupid things and make stupid mistakes.....that always happens when I get ahead of where He is trying to go. As I said in the post before this...if I blew it and was overly harsh, I truly apologize. We all "shoot from the hip" sometimes and generally that is when we fall far short of what God is asking us to do.<P><P>------------------<BR>"They that wait upon the Lord shall renew their strength. They shall mount up with wings as eagles, they shall run and not be weary, they shall walk and not faint." Isaiah 40:31

My personal feelings on this issue are not relevant, si I'll not add to the fray. But, I do find it tragic that someone came here looking for advice on how to address her H's affair and was, in effect, chased off.<P>I hope she will continue to read the info on the site & be helped by all the info, even if she does not post again.

I got pregnant. I thinking about abortion. It hard to have a baby by a man who said he did not love. He was so in love with the ow. I made my choice to kept her. I now have a beautiful little girl who will be seven months. Now, I think what would I have done without her in my life. She takes away a lot of the hurt that I been through. When I found out about the afair, I was so hurt and I asked god to send me a angel. I never thought about it again. But, god did answer my prayers. He sent me a angel.