This is my first post here and am new to all of this, My discovery of m W's "indiscretion" is two months old. Been married 16 years. you spoke of emotional with sex and no consumation, that is my W, according to her anyway. We are in marriage and individual couselling. we want to make it work. Maybe you can give me some insight. Why am I feeling at fault, I am working emotional overtime trying to get things right, when I confronted her she said she would not stop being friends with OM, said I wasn't going to control her, she kept the friendship until I could take it no more emotionally, I was letting her have the freindship, I didn't want it to be about me, I when she finally did give it up because it was making me crazy, I told her I was prepared to leave if she didn't. She is resentful still for having to give it up aqnd now after two months of no contact with him she is passing 3rd party messages to him via a mutual friend. !!!! I am crying, I feel like in counselling it's the what's wrong with me show, she is so closed off, I feel alone in this battle to save my marriage, she says she wants to mak it work but it looks like she is toying around HELP!!!!!!!!!!

Freshstart:<P>My H was involved in EA and it's now over. He did continue<BR>the friendship for awhile until I found a note she had sent him, after that he ceased all communications. If it is to succeed she needs to NOT communicate with OM. You are right. Stay strong. It's been 10 weeks since my DDay and it is getting better but my H and I have a long rode ahead of us. His A with OW was with someone we knew, a coworker, just like most of the books tell you. My H just started out by talking to her because she was there....and then it became intimate but according to him he never let it go further. THey kept it in the parking lot where they worked!!! I've been married 17 years...so I know you're hurting. Have you read any books yet...It has helped us alot..the Harleys have some very good books out. Surviving the Affair...my H and I read it together, cried together and he is scared to death right now that I'll walk out...but we're trying to work it out...<P>GOD BLESS YOUL>>>>><BR>Shocker17

<BLOCKQUOTE><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><HR>Originally posted by Shocker17:<BR><B>Freshstart:<BR></B><HR></BLOCKQUOTE><P>Shocker17:<P>This post wasn't written by FreasStart.<P>The poster (gpsman) addressedit to freshstart in order fro freshstart to reply.<P>FreshStart seems to be missing in action. Haven't seen anything from her in three days. She usually posts in Poems and Prayer Requests.<P>Clyde