Why do I feel like WOW...I hit the jackpot...He finally broke down and told the whole truth and nothing but the truth. Now here is my question?? My original DDAY was March 6th and my H now confessed MORE DETAILS (The sex part of it to me on June 1st).. Does that mean that's my new DDAY???? PLEASE ANSWER BACK ON THAT QUESTION ANYONE.<P>Well....Here's the story if you have time...it's juicy!!!<BR>I confronted OW in person and by phone (I haven't given up because I knew he was lying when he said "we just kissed".<BR>He's an animal...I knew it had to go further. To make a long story short...He confessed to not only ORAL SEX, SEXUAL INTERCOURSE but even that he picked her up and brought her to our home and had sex on the Family Room floor...but our family photos were staring at her and she had trouble orgasming@!!!!! GROSS!!!! You see, our family picture hangs over the fireplace so I guess I was watching them and it made her real uncomfortable!! Also...he told me it started in Jan, 2000 and he ended it in June, 2000. The truth was it was two years in duration (OW told me that and then he confessed) and also SEX, SEX and more SEX. How they can LIE SO WELL!!! Now...he wants me to believe him that it is over and was over when I found the email in his briefcase<BR>which would have been December, 2000. <P>Sent the NO CONTACT letter to OW's Husband (restricted delivery, certified mail). The letter states to OW's Husband that it is over between them and he is sorry and there will be no contact and that all of the ORAL SEX, and<BR>Sexual Intercourse was wrong and what they did for two years <BR>was very wrong.<P>I'll keep you posted...should be received by OW and her H<BR>in a day or two.... My H is a little concerned for his life???? (I am too since I do love him). He's a new person now since the truth is out... He feels cleansed and now we can start RECOVERY!!!!<P>PRAY FOR ME...The sexual visions of the two of them are really hard for me to deal with right now.<P>If you persist...the truth will come out...Keep asking questions and reasking...My H finally just broke...Now OW<BR>is panicked since she at first told me her H knew everything...I asked her..hope he knows about all the sex too!!!<P>Bye for now...FIREWORKS TO FOLLOW SOON...AND WILL BE BEFORE<BR>THE FOURTH OF JULY!!!<P>SHOCKER17

Shocker:<P>Congratulations. I know that is a weird thing to say, but you are now freed of your trapped position, freed of being lied to. I am sorry to learn of the depth of the A. hose details are painful and hard to cope with...but I hoonestly feel that, with the truth, you can do anything. Even though you know much more than you probably would ever want to, you can work toward actually feeling peace.<P>Any WS reading this...please find an alternative to living a lie and asking the same of your spouse...either recommit to your marriage, or make a decision to move on. <P>Best of luck with your recovery, Shocker.<P>Robyn

Congratulations Shocker17!<P>I am the betrayed husband, Dday was 12/00. My situation sounds very familiar to yours. I discovered the affair after weeks of suspecting it. At first my W wouldn't even admit to kissing and said the they really never met in person, mostly over the phone and that it was only three weeks old or so. OM and his wife were our friends and neighbors.<P>After three weeks she finally admitted that the affair was four months, they met in cars many times (other places too)after work and that they had sex only ONCE, and it was only for a minute while standing up outside, (yea right!) but oral sex five or ten times. I have no evidence but there is *overwhelming circumstance* to suggest that they had sex many times. Every week or two I beg my wife to tell me the truth but she insists that she is telling the truth and the discussion turns to an argument, she gets defensive.<P>I am the sort to want to know the details so that I can put it behind me and move forward. It seems impossible for me to move forward with this HUGE doubt, it's a lingering question that won't go away.<P>Tomorrow I plan to tell her that I am at my wits end with this and, for my own sanity she needs to tell the truth. We'll see. Besides contacting OM (which I've done) can you offer any advice?

I never suspected an affair until my H confessed. Then all the pieces fell into place. I know a lot about what they did during the A. He told me most of it. She told me tidbits out of hope that I would get mad and kick my H out. She claims to be in love with(?) him. I told H that I'm not giving her what she wants. <BR>--for IT MAKES ME CRAZY... I wouldn't recommend pressing the issue. You need to read about plan A. Don't worry your WS will tell you a lot once the fear of you exploding is gone. It may be years unless you do a faithful PLAN A. My plan A is working like a charm. And you get a lot of excellent advice from others on MB so stick with it and don't give up. *Remember* the more you press the issue the more your WS will resist or dislike you. Give them time.