we have been married for 12 years.she told me i made her feel invisable. i never understood till today(d-day) what she ment. three days ago i was snooping and read her history on chat. I was never so mad. tHERE WERE GUYS WANTING TO meet her,do know about if she did. she was talking to a fried and her friend said she was wanting to know would her male friend be there for her if she left me? wow i was devistated. finally i asked her about it . she did not deny it at all. We talked,cried, i asked her if she could stop seeing him,,,she replied no,,,i realy think she loves me,but he talkes to her more ,she doesnt feel invisable. i had to leave for a week on business, i told her we could work it out but she would have to stop seeing him. i feel like it is my fault she had the affair,she says it has been going on for a couple of months. help!!!what do i do know??????<P>------------------<BR>

<small>[ June 04, 2003, 09:57 PM: Message edited by: Eleonora ]</small>

[QUOTE]Originally posted by broken tigg:<BR>[ to clear up some details,been two days since d-day. she was havin cyber relations with several guys also she was havin a physical relations with who i thought was a friend.OM has been a fried of her family for years ,but never thought he would do this . she says it is not his fault. it just happened. she said he talks to her more and she doesnt feel invisable. she said it wasnt about sex ,it just happened that way.she was looking for what i was not giving her. and now she says dont even think about him ,we need to think about what we were havin problems about before he came into picture. <BR>to describe myself: im 35,an equipment salesman ,i travel i am gone 5 day sometimes every other week, i beleive that when i said I DO it meant for life. i dont help with house very much,but i do little things ,so she says.she is very out spoken person and critisix=zes alot of what i say ,so i feel that she has badgered me and im afraid to talk at all ,afraid it will be be wrong thing,i am also very quiet, i keep stuff inside and i dont talk alot ,she says that is the problem ,she feels i dont talk to her ,that is why she started talking on the puter and has now had an affair. i had to take my trip ,but have talked to her several times on phone. i want to forgive her but i cant now,i told her that if we stayed together i would talk her legs off. i also email her your site and another site like it,hope she reads it. thanks for the ears ,i dont have anyone to talk to about this .