This is my first post ever, anywhere, but I really have no idea where to go for help right now.<P>I will try to get the most important information out without being to verbose.<P>I just found out my husband picked up a hooker about a month after we were married on August 14th 2000.<P>My husband and I met early in 2000. I was 33 and he was 41. Our attraction was immediate, both physically and emotionally. We dated, had fun and got to know each other. <P> As it can sometimes be when first dating we would drink. We would be out to dinner and we would always have wine... When we got married I had no idea that my husband was an alcoholic.<P>Either you know, or don't, how hard it can be to spot an alcoholic. Especially when he has been hiding it for years.<P>Two weeks after we were married my husband had to leave for Australia for the Olympics. He was gone 5 weeks and it was tough. When he returned we (I thought) were ready to start our married life together. (We did not live together prior to marriage, I moved in while he was in Australia)<P>It soon came to pass that I realized that my husband drank everyday. My husband drank a lot almost everyday. So it came to the point where we discussed it. He was the first to admit he drank too much. Not knowing he was an alcoholic we tried various approaches to his drinking i.e not during the week, not before 5 on weekends...) He would make me promises about drinking and then break them. He (to his credit) admitted he was an alcoholic and had been for years.<P> There was a period in 1992 where he had gone to rehab for a month and was consequently sober for almost 2 years (at this point he was living with the mother of his son, now 13 and my stepson). March 5th of this year he went into treatment on his own accord.<P>He has had 1 slip (4 weeks ago) where he went out after an argument and drank. Other than the one slip he has been sober for 3 1/2 months. He is happier sober, discuses with me whenever he is having cravings and/or BUDDing (building up to drink or drug).<P>During his treatment (which was 28 days) he had to do a lot of writing (I had already read what he had written in 1992 and I am the only person in his life who knew so much about him).<P>So after all this ( and I am sure I have omitted things ) he told me that I could read his "life story" after he finished treatment. He finished treatment at the end of April (that is to say his major treatment, not the AA meetings and the Aftercare program).<P>My husband was working a late shift tonight. I was a looking for something to do and I remembered that I hadn't read his story that he told me I could read.<P>(AT THIS POINT: if it seems that I have omitted anything to make myself look righteous and invaded his privacy, then please let me know.)<P>So I decided to read what he wrote. At first I wasn't learning anything that I didn't already know from reading (again, with his permission) anything I didn't already know.<P>The end result (and I know I have left stuff out) is that that one of the things he was most embarassed about was the fact that he picked up a hooker when he was in Australia.<P>Naturally, all the feelings exposed in what I read were feelings of remorse, guilt . . .<P>I love this man. I am not naive, (sexually and/or emotionally) and I would like to spend the rest of my life with him.<P>I realise that there may be information that may be lacking in helping me solve my problem, therefore, if you have any questions and/or any advice please let me know.<P>I am hoping I can benefit from others wisdoms since I am unsure of my own.<P>I thank you so much in advance,<P>Kristina
