About an hour ago I found out my husband is cheating! I am shocked to say the least. His brother in law busted him and his sister is the one who broke the news to me. And they have no reason to lie, they are very trustworthy.<P>Now he is afraid to come home. I assume, because he hasn't yet. Did anyone else feel like beating their spouse senseless???? UGH! I COULD KILL HIM! (not literally because he isn't worth it but you know what I mean)<P>What the holy hell is he thinking?? We have 3 kids plus he has a daughter from a previous marriage who was suppose to be visiting us this summer. We don't have a bad relationship. I am stunned. I want to rip his nuts out his nose! What am I supposed to do? Wait for him to come so we can have WWIII? Go find him and the little slut he is screwing???? I don't mean to be so rude but I am so pissed I don't know what else to do. I would really appreciate any advice. Thanks

i know how you feel!! i found out for sure 2 days ago. I had my suspicions, but now i know for sure. Actually i was soooo angry i could spit fire. I did yell at him and the like but that didn't help. All I did was break down and cry. I felt like my entire world came crashing down. I do know that you need to go to a clinic and get tested. I had to do that today. It was not fun. We too have 4 kids and this happened. I'm still in the shock phase of you had sex with someone else type of thing. You betrayed our marriage. I also know that our marriage wasn't the best before. and obviously i was not meeting his needs or he wouldn't have gone elsewhere. He wants to work it out and i'm like hmmm. i don't know what else to say except i know how you feel and i'm here if you need to talk or rant or whatever.

Well in addition to being a filandering jack [censored] he's also a coward. He hasn't been home yet. I haven't heard from him at all. I think he knows he is busted and I think he is just afraid to face to music (if you want to call me screaming 'music'). Not only do I know he is with someone else but I can't even tell him off!!! gRRRRRRR This is so frustrating. I do have a few things going for me though. His parents are totally pissed at him. They went on their summer vacation today and they brought me some money and groceries and his grandma took me to get toilet paper etc. I know I shouldn't rely on his family because they are his blood but they know I don't deserve this and are being very helpful. Then there is the thought of going to the doctor to make sure he hasn't given me anything just makes me ill! I am so sick to my stomach I can hardly eat. Then there are the kids who are 7, 4, and 2. I can't even go there!!!! They have no clue where he is or what he's doing. They think he is working. Makes me sick sick sick!!!!!! <P>Well, thanks for letting me vent! I'm sorry you are in the same boat!

BrianneS,<P>I'm so sorry you have to go through this, especially with kids. I only have one and one on the way (mine) and found out 4 months ago that Wife was cheating with her best friend's husband. I can't really offer steps on what to do specifically, only that I found the books Surviving an Affair by Harley, and After the Affair by Spring, and the people on this website to be enormously helpful. I didn't kick wife out, sometimes I think I should have, but that would only serve to push the Wayward Spouse closer to the other person. Sometimes it takes a couple weeks to find an appt with a marriage counselor, make an appt today, at least for yourself. In a couple weeks you'll be glad you did. Also, get yourself checked immediately for STD's. My wife's Other Man had a vasectomy 3 yrs ago... so why wear a condom? Stupid Stupid Stupid, thankfully neither one of us got anything. I wish you the best.... post often here... it helps to vent.. sometimes no one has the answers but everyone sure knows the questions.<P>FS

Well, the chicken little [censored] still hasn't come home to face facts I guess....<P>But I did have a small victory today. In the state we live in I can actually press charges for adultry. YAY! And 2 I automatically get custody unless I forfeit it over to him or he can prove me unfit. Not a chance in hell will that happen. I don't even have a speeding ticket on my record. And my kids are my world and I am their's and EVERYONE who knows us knows that. His parents are even on my side helping me.<P>I wish he would hurry up and come home I found a permanant marker and I'd like to tattoo 'loser' on his forhead.