First I have to thank my girlfriend for pointing this site out to me. She has been going through a rough time with her husband and visits here often. After I explained what I found out yesterday she said that she had read something very similar to what I had explained about the last few months. THEN she showed me and my husband actually posted in the "in recovery" part what he had done for all the world to see and described how I found out!!!! How3 humiliating!!!!!!!<P>He told me during counselling that he had gotten a BJ from some woman he worked with. I cannot believe this why would he just hurt me like that. I don't know which way is up, my mind is racing, at first he said it was just emotional with no physical stuff other than some inpprpriate touching and some kissing but now!!!!!! I was ready to let him into my heart but I don't know now. My heart is breaking, I'm crying, I'm staying with my girlfriend right now I just can't look at his ugly lying face!!!!!!!!! <P>I AM SO ANGRY!!!!!<P>I'm going to post this on his post so he sees it!!<P>JK

We all understand how angry, hurt, and devastated you feel.<BR>We've been there too, most of us a lot worse, some affairs have gone on for years, some had sex every day etc, some husbands left for the OW and never came back.<BR>A lot of people here would love it if their husband was sorry for his actions and seeking help here.<BR>Please stay with us and everyone here can help you through it. Noone will judge you, we all know what its like, we know its hell.<BR>

<small>[ June 04, 2003, 09:55 PM: Message edited by: Eleonora ]</small>

Zorweb, you are right. I realize how lucky I am that H confessed, almost immediately after the A occurred. It hurts deeply, but at least we have a chance because of his honesty. The advice you give rings true for me too. He caused the pain, so naturally, I want to push him away. But for things to rebuild, I need to let him help me heal!!! Thanks for the encouragement, even though it was not meant for me.<P>