I just returned from a business trip and my W told me that she had met two of her cyber friends, both men. Am I wrong to think that a meeting such as this is considered a "date" and when she meets these men while I'm gone, she is telling me I don't really need to know...<P>One of the M she met lives close by, and they will probably be meeting again...especially when I leave on business trips so often and for so long.<P>I just need to see what others think of this...write on all.<P>Pops

p0peye_34

Yep, I'd say these are dates.

If she is having chat and email relationships with these men you might want to install tracking software on the computer she is using. That way you will know what is going on. It sounds like she is not going to tell you exactly what is up.

Please read the book Surviving and Affair and the material on this web site. There is much here that can help you.

<small>[ June 04, 2003, 09:47 PM: Message edited by: Eleonora ]</small>

When a spouse is cultivating these kinds of relationships with members of the opposite sex, it is inappropriate.<P>It likely indicates problems in your marriage, where there are needs not being met.<P>In any event, what you describe is completely inappropriate, and I would personally go with Zorweb's suggestion to install keyboard monitoring software on your computer, so you see exactly what is being discussed.<P>You should also get right into Plan A, so read about that and other things like ENs, LBs, etc. on this site.<P>Regardless of what she considered the meeting to be, this is how affairs start. Two people sharing thoughts and meeting some ENs (conversation and recreational companionship). Surviving an Affair explains that, as do articles on this site.<P>Telling you that "you don't really need to know" is not how marriages survive.<P>Good luck.<BR>