Does any feel a strong need to forgive the other person? I just want to forgive everyone involved. I really want my husband to tell the other person that he was confused and he is sorry he hurt her and that he loves me and we are moving on. I feel a strong need to forgive her but do not know how to go about this!! Am I losing my mind or what does anyone else feel this way. I just want to talk to her so that when we run into each other we do not have to feel all crappy inside. I am sure she is hurting just as we are. Any thoughts!!! PLEASE<BR>

I remembered how I felt after talking with the OW about the affair. My husband had told her just as many lies as he had me, told her we were separated and getting a divorce. She fell all over herself apologizing to me, she made a mistake on false information and regrets the pain and choas she help to create for my family. There was a sense of closure for me to talk with her and forgive her. The OW should know the affair was a mistake and since you and your husband are still together that should tell her he loves you and your all moving on with your lifes, actions speek louder than words type thing. I guess I don't understand why you want him to say what already is visable? Why encourage communication of the sort between him and his ex lover? Well thats my piece of information for the night. Good luck with what ever you decide to do.