My husband has been having a phone and e-mail love affair except for the one time of meeting in another city for sex. He has confessed this all to me. I love him and have 2 young boys. He wants to go to her in less than a week to see if the love that he feels for her is real. He claims to love me and says he's not leaving me. He needs to find out if his feelings are real. I asked him not to have sex. I don't want him to go at all. How can I allow him to solve this in his mind while I am dying every day because of it. I want him to work things out here with me to see if we can make it first. We've been married 13 yrs. I know I can forgive and forget. He wants to be made to feel special and loved. He says he knows I love him more now than ever and still wants to go. Am I wrong for not letting him go and sort out his feelings or am I wrong for not stopping him....time is running out ....someone please help direct me.

WN:<P>Your H is in a classic case of the fog! Everything about your relationship will be re-written and you won't even recognize your own past. Read everything on this site and start plan Aing him immediately. Nothing you do or say will prevent him from proceeding with the affair. Though you don't realize it now, this may actually speed up the end of this whole situation. Take care of you and your boys!