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D-day for me was just a few days ago. I think my H is a sexual addict. It's all been online, webcams, strippers, etc. I just can't take any more. Every time he promises it won't happen again, but it does.<P>We are starting counseling (I went to first appt today) and H will go next week. <P>My self-image is so wrecked and I feel so awful about myself. In my head, I know it is his problem and has nothing to do with how I look, but this is really tough to deal with.<P>Anyone have ANY ideas on how to help restore confidence in yourself after you've been betrayed repeatedly?<P>
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Dear Wrecked:<P>What you are feeling is completely (unfortunately) normal. It is so devastating to think that you are not "enough" for you WS. I know, I've been there! You need to focus on what YOU can do to change things, not on your WS's actions. Remember this is HIS problem, not yours. Take care of you! Thinking of you.
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Thanks for the reply. It's hard taking what we know in our heads and apply it to the way we feel. I really am trying to focus on making my self-image non dependant on my husband (or anybody else for that matter).<P>In some ways, I think that it would be so much worse to be in the situation others here are - where the WS believe themselves actually in love with someone else. I don't really have that concern at all. I know it's not about love at all. <P>I found a specialist in sexual addictions that we are seeing and he is awesome. He really helped me a lot already and said that he sees just as many injured spouses as the sexual addicts themselves.<P>I do have hope that there is a possibility that the problem will be resolved.
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Good luck to you and on your marriage. I'm glad you found a good support system. ![[Linked Image from marriagebuilders.com]](http://www.marriagebuilders.com/forum/images/icons/smile.gif)
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