Hi twinzmom,<P>I am so glad to hear from you. I know you feel confused wondering if you did everything perfectly. Well there is no perfect way. Do I make him wait three days until I tell him I want this to work? Should I've involved the group? You are going to be asking yourself these questions until they drive you crazy! Just remember you did everything from your heart. Yes, you were trying to embarrass her...but it was b/c your heart reacted that way. BTW, I am not sure if his parents need to know...he definitely embarrassed...since his friends know. You are going to second guess yourself b/c you don't trust him right now. But just think...there are a lot of women on this forum that would love for their husbands to throw themselves at their feet and would love to hear the words "I love you" come out of their mouths. If they meant something to you and you feel that you could work on this and forgive him. Then you are doing all the right things. Be strong and make sure that these are not just words he is saying. It's a very good idea to make him read the book.<P>Good luck!<BR>techlady

Hey twinzmom,<P>You said, "I know that if she calls him on his cellphone that I will never know". Get the book that came with his cell phone and learn how to check the Caller ID, and also the calls he's made going out. Most cell phones have that. <P>There is the ability to erase them, so also check the Detailed Billing...Sprint and probably others, have an online site where you can check your account. It normally is available one month at a time, for the previous month, on and up to the billing date. You'll find under My Account the option for Simple or Detailed Billing. If it's simple - simply change it to the other! The sign-in is the telephone number and the user ID is the last 4 digits of the SSN of the user, unless it's been changed. Whoever he has service with probably has a Web site. Any you're his wife, no reason to feel bad about looking at these things.<P>Best of luck to you! Keep strong and take special care of yourself during these times.