It has been a few weeks, and i still don't feel any change in my feelings toward my unfaithful wife.I feel like i'm falling apart and more distant from the wife i truly loved.I still have a hard time looking her in the eyes,and i think she knows that.The only thing i think about is how much she hurt me and how much i hate her for what she did. She says that she still loves me and wants to work it out. but i'm too afraid she will do it again and this would all be a waste of time. I guess my question is, after i feel no love,is it time to move on ?

Give it time. That is all you can do. You are going to feel different ways in time. One day there will be hatred, the next anger, then love, then hate..... It is a roller coaster. <P>Just give it time. If you honestly in your deepest part of your heart and soul feel there is no more love... Then move on.<P>Good Luck... and StayStrong...<P>~Heather<P>------------------<BR>"What do you do when the person who usually wipes away your tears is the one who is making you cry?"

Can you honestly look over the years you have spent with your wife and look into her eyes and feel no love for her?<P>I have followed your first thread when you found out about your wifes affair and feel that the tears you shed from the hurt and pain of betrayal brings you to your anger that you now feel towards your wife. You dont hate her directly, but hate what she has done to you, to what you both had together. This is totally understandable, considering everything that you believed in has now been crushed. <P>I also feel your fear in wondering "what if it happens again" as i also wonder the same thing in my own situation. But i guess as the previous post and others on this board have said that time is what we all need. We need time to heal, to trust again and get back all that we lost. <P>But I also believe and strongly suggest that you both seek counselling together. Through this you may find the answers you are looking for. Through this you will get the help you need to get past this and move on with or without your wife.<BR>Good luck<P>TOS