Please help to get me through this.....I have been married for 2 1/2 yrs and just found out via a letter that my husband wrote to his lawyer (wasn't supposed to see) that he cheated on me a month ago and is now has allegations against him for sexual assault. He met her at a bar, they went home together and fooled around, but did not have sexual intercourse. However, sober the next day, he went out for dinner with her and she had to leave so nothing progressed. However, he never called her again and now, he has to see the police regarding allegations of sexual assault. I am seven months pregnant with my 1st child and I hurt so bad. I know that the above points are true as his statement to the lawyer was very explicit and I wasn't supposed to see it at all.....I believe that he did not sexually assualt her, but he was unfaithful. The part that hurts the most is that he went out with her again the next night. It has also come out that a few months prior he had gone out for dinner on 2 separate occasions with other women, but it was just dinner.<P>I am so upset and it is so hard to deal with because of the pregnancy....help!

I believe that you finding the letter was no accident - God always wants light shed on darkness - truth to overcome evil. If you haven't found a place already, you need some good support from godly people. Your husband has broken his covenant with you - there are always consequences to this kind of act. He is out of control - he needs structure. But, the most important people in this are you and your unborn child. You take care of you two first - don't waste any energy on your husband. If you get wise counsel, God will reveal to you what stance to take with your husband. You heal - get strong. Don't depend on your husband, depend on God. Your husband may be drawn back to you through this.

I am so sorry this is happening to you,how awful. I have no real advice but protect yourself and this child. Why would he just go to dinner with all these women?<BR> You must be reeling with feelings of anger and denial.<BR>You may get some support from the prgnancy forum.<BR>I usually post in recovery, just lurking here today and saw your post. If you need to talk contact me there.<BR> I will pray for a sense of clarity and calmness for you.<BR>I have 2 children so understand what stress at this time can do.<BR>Have you confronted him?<BR>Does he have a bad temper?<BR>One thing I was told in the beginning was dont make any rash decisions, and it was wise advice.<BR>Good luck

I will try to write again soon, I had a similar situation, pregnant when I found out about my husband's affair. My two year old just climbed on my lap. Lots to tell you. Deep breaths, back soon. <BLOCKQUOTE><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><HR>Originally posted by 7monthspregnant:<BR><B>Please help to get me through this.....I have been married for 2 1/2 yrs and just found out via a letter that my husband wrote to his lawyer (wasn't supposed to see) that he cheated on me a month ago and is now has allegations against him for sexual assault. He met her at a bar, they went home together and fooled around, but did not have sexual intercourse. However, sober the next day, he went out for dinner with her and she had to leave so nothing progressed. However, he never called her again and now, he has to see the police regarding allegations of sexual assault. I am seven months pregnant with my 1st child and I hurt so bad. I know that the above points are true as his statement to the lawyer was very explicit and I wasn't supposed to see it at all.....I believe that he did not sexually assualt her, but he was unfaithful. The part that hurts the most is that he went out with her again the next night. It has also come out that a few months prior he had gone out for dinner on 2 separate occasions with other women, but it was just dinner.<P>I am so upset and it is so hard to deal with because of the pregnancy....help!</B><HR></BLOCKQUOTE><P>

Please, any information that you may have would be useful. <BR>Thanks!

Hi again, your pain must seem so endless right now. The timing of this could not be worse. What I had to do was first and foremost keep focusing on the precious gift growing inside of me and remember that he/she is feeling all that you are. That will help you focus. Now as it relates to your husband. Hmmmm, there can be no healing without open and honest communication. All you can do when you are ready is to share the information you happened upon with him and really scrutinize his response. That will predict the course of your next actions. I found out in a horrible way three months into my pregnancy. The agony was like nothing I had ever felt. My husband's face when I told him I knew was a conflict of emotions, each one competing with the other. He has demonstrated great remorse, but the one step forward two back road we have traveled since then has not been easy. We are still together (through the grace of God, because only the Almighty could have pulled this one off). Our daughter, the two year old I spoke of yesterday crawling on my lap is doing great. We also have a nine year old. Concentrate on you and the baby. This will fall into place, you can get through it, I can promise you that because I am proof. Write me back here. If you want to exchange emails, we can find a way. Take good care. <BLOCKQUOTE><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><HR>Originally posted by 7monthspregnant:<BR><B>Please help to get me through this.....I have been married for 2 1/2 yrs and just found out via a letter that my husband wrote to his lawyer (wasn't supposed to see) that he cheated on me a month ago and is now has allegations against him for sexual assault. He met her at a bar, they went home together and fooled around, but did not have sexual intercourse. However, sober the next day, he went out for dinner with her and she had to leave so nothing progressed. However, he never called her again and now, he has to see the police regarding allegations of sexual assault. I am seven months pregnant with my 1st child and I hurt so bad. I know that the above points are true as his statement to the lawyer was very explicit and I wasn't supposed to see it at all.....I believe that he did not sexually assualt her, but he was unfaithful. The part that hurts the most is that he went out with her again the next night. It has also come out that a few months prior he had gone out for dinner on 2 separate occasions with other women, but it was just dinner.<P>I am so upset and it is so hard to deal with because of the pregnancy....help!</B><HR></BLOCKQUOTE><P>