Not sure where to start :<BR>me 42<BR>H 41<BR>Have been together for almost 22 yrs.<BR>Been married for 17 yrs this fall.<BR>Have 4 sons 22, 19, 17, 15<P>For the last couple of years have noticed his excitement at<BR>going out to gatherings for my side of the family. Have been <BR>noticing how much attention he has paid to a particular sister.Examples when sitting with other family members having a drink or two he tosses beer caps at her chest. <BR>And constantly says " I don't know why i just love to tease <BR>you". He also makes it a point to be her partner in any board games that we play, he also tries to sit as close to her as he possibly can.<P>She has never been married, no children, and is 32 yrs old.<BR>I also notice the flirting that they do .<P>Once when we went home for Easter i went to lay down on her bed , she came and said she was going to sleep , well H got on the bed in between us and started to tickle her. Soon all was quiet and I sat up and looked at them he had his hand under the blanket that she was covered up with and she was moaning. <BR>I punched him as hard as I could and asked him what he thought he was doing?<P>Then again I went to a city near by and he came to pick me up on the outskirts with the rig he was driving. This sister dropped me off there. As I put my luggage into the rig I<BR>looked out the side mirror and i saw him kiss her good bye on the lips. I thought I was seeing things.<P>Do I confront both of them ? H is planning a trip to my families on Sept 15 2001 and this is our anniversary.<P>I no longer hear from this sister like I used too. Thought we were once close.<P>H also travels that route on his way to the ciy for his deliveries.<P><BR>abcmjd<P>------------------<BR>

OMGosh,<P>I know how disappointed you must be in your husband and your younger sister. Their behavior is totally outrageous and unacceptable. I don't think you guys should go to the family trip for your anniversary--can you somehow talk him out of it?<P>Can't find any articles on flirting with family members or incest, but... Have you guys gone over Harley's Policy of Joint Agreement? Love Busters? Would he be willing to answer the Emotional Needs questionnaire with you?<P>You were not seeing things. Can you talk to your sister? I probably would confront my sister AFTER I was sure that my marriage was secure and my husband was on my team. I can't believe she had the nerve to do those things right in your face. Very cruel and unscrupulous--both of them!<P>Also, could he possibly change his trucking route? Don't ignore the signs.<P>Why is your sister so competitive with you, going after your man??? Has she always craved this much attention? Sorry to say, but what a brat!!!

Thanks for the relpy BINthereDunthat. Have been doing a lot <BR>of thinking. Just confronted him on these issues today as he <BR>came to my workplace to tell me he had to go to the city .<BR>Guess you know what i thought of that.<P>I specified to him that I had something for him to think about.I did tell him everything that I had on my mind and my thoughts of him and her.<BR>He seems to think there is nothing wrong with this marriage.<BR>I have backed out of going to my family's for that weekend.<BR>Just simply told him I am not in the mood to celebrate a marriage that to me is just a big hoax. He has done this to me before but I said I would forgive him and try to keep the marriage going for the kids sake.<P>I have asked him to change jobs but he insists he wants this one. I have even offered to relocate if I have too.<BR>So you see I am almost ready to go and live on my own now.<BR>He doesn't seem to have a problem starting new relationships. So I guess he won't be too lonely.<BR>abcmjd<BR>