just found out my seperated wife wants to renew affair with om.he left her high and dry when i threatened to expose him to his wife.i felt at that time it would only hurt her if she found out and if it was dead let it go.now i have found out that they are planning to renew this affair schould i tell her.this is not about revenge i have setteled this issue in my mind long ago.i would appreciate constructive feedback. thanks iggy

Tell the OM's wife. She has a right to know about what a creep she is married to.

iggy,<P>This is a minor form of Love Busting...<BR>...and will not break the "bank"...<BR>...but may accelerate contact between a WS and OP!<P>Most at this site would agree with <B>max</B>...<BR>...the OP's spouse has a right and dignity to know about it!<P> <P>Jim

Iggy,<P>Is she telling you this? If so, seems like she just wants the attention. I wouldn't put too much into it. However if she and OM do persue, the OM's W must be told. Your W may just be fantasizing what was never realized... so what. <BR>Unless the actual relationship resumes in any form without your knowlege, I would let this go. <BR>Are you both seeking counsoling together? If so, find out what she is really missing in her life. <BR>Hope this helps.<P>TopCat

Tell her!!! She has the right to know. When I found out I threatened to tell the OW's H and my husband begged me not to. At first I didn't because I wasn't sure what my motives were. After carefully thinking I decided he had the right to know even though they had separated prior to me telling. The analogy I used was this:<P>If it was me would I want to know? My answer was yes no matter how much it would hurt I would want the other BS to tell me.<P>How I did it was this: I called him and said "If I knew something about your personal life that you weren't aware of would you want to know even if it hurt?" The answer from him was yes so I proceeded to tell him and he actually thanked me because he knew there was something but couldn't put his finger on it and he was grateful that I told him.<P>Good Luck and I believe the other BS has every right to know what is going on.