I just caught my husband cheating with my best friend for 6 years. My whole world is crashing around me. They even had sex in our house. HELP!!!!!!!

Welcome<BR> We have all gone through this horror. I am sorry this happened to you. Please read the principles here so that you know the basics.<BR> Print out how do affairs begin and how they should end. give it to your husband.<BR>Do not expect remorse right away he will go through withdrawel and be miserable for a while if he gives her up.<BR>Come here to let off steam.<BR>Dont think you are crazy this hurts like heck and it takes a long time to come to terms with it.<BR>Good Luck

Heartbroke. Start reading as much as you can on this sight. Do not make any fast judgments. This is all very painful, you can be angry and mad , but why did it happen. Think it over , please get him to see a marriage councelor with you. He must break off all contact with your friend. Is she married if so you might want to give her a 5 minute talk and tell her to stay out of your life. Please be strong and get him to talk. Remember this "You have affairs and fall out of love, you don't fall out of love and then have affairs". understand what i just said. There is more but you need to read everything on this site. You should be posting on the infidelity board, you will get a lot of surpport there. Be strong.

I know the hurt of double betrayal. My husband also had an affair with my EX best friend but they both lied about it for years. I just found out in June but it happened 6 years ago. Like you, I was devastated that they were IN MY BED. I just had new furniture delivered yesterday and redid a sewing room for my bedroom. <P>We were separated for 9 mos when I thought it was emotional only. It totally destroyed me. She never admitted to doing anything wrong and made herself look really good to our mutual friends. He lied to protect HER marriage he said, but she did get divorced 3 years later so he could have told me then. I had been her matron of honor just 6 mos before they were together for the first time. In counseling he finally admitted to having sex in her car, at her house (her H is my H's best friend and partner, doesn't know the truth and I'm not supposed to tell him!), made out at our office (where her H worked!) and were in my bed.<P>We were able to salvage our marriage with prayer and counseling. Of course, it took almost a year for him to come 'out of the fog' also. It is definitely the hardest thing I've ever been thru. I know I couldn't do it again. We are still in counseling.<P>You need to find support! Please consider counseling, it does wonders. Also, there's a book called Torn Asunder that is wonderful. And an article at findarticles.com called Shattered Vows by Psychology Today.<P>Good luck. Prayers and hugs

Heartbroke,<BR>You have come to the right place. Although I hope I can help ease your mind the way the other did for me, I honestly wish that I was not in here, like you for the reasons we are.<P>You could say that by coming here, you have pretty much already made up your mind. Like most of us in here, you believe that what you have is worth saving, no matter what your H did. <P>I too have recently discovered, so the pain is still very much with me. I love to come here to vent and to get somet things off my chest that I cannot tell anyone else. You will find a lot of shoulders for you in here, please keep coming back here to see what others have to offer. These people are great!<P>Pops

I am so very sorry to read your psot. I know first hand what you are experiencing. It happened to me too <BR>D-Day for me ws June 1,1999 so I have had much time to try and get through this-although it hasn't been and isn't easy. But I would be more than happy to share anything I can with you in order to help you.<P>I hope you come back soon!<BR>D-Day for me was June 1,1999<P>------------------<BR>*heartache*<P>"Life's A Dance<BR>You Learn As You Go.<BR>Sometimes You Lead<BR>Sometimes You Follow!<BR>Don't worry 'Bout What You Don't Know<BR>LIfe's A Dance <BR>You Learn As You Go."