Hello all,<P>Chances are slim there's anyone still around on the Forum that remembers me. As of today, it's been 3 years since my wife (suse) found out about my EA. Both Suse and I posted here regularly for well over a year and a half. And, we met a lot of really nice people here.<P>Long story short... after 3 years, our relationship is in very, very nice shape. We're both in our mid-40s, have two boys, and have been married for 20+ years. Suse had an on-again off-again affair for years going back 10-15 years ago. I had a very brief, torrid internet affair 3 years ago.<P>My point is... we made it through. Not easy, not without some hardship and pain. But, we did it. We stand as testimony that it CAN be done. There were times when we each wanted to give up. We didn't. And, we're soooo glad. Our boys are as well.<P>I'd be glad to share some of our experiences with anyone who might have interest. I've taken a break from posting for at least a year but have recently taken a sabbatical from a job and have some time to offer.<P>If any of you think an old, grizzled veteran of the EA wars can help, just send me a post.<P>Best,<P>DMac.<P>P.s. any old-timers lurking? It'd be a delight to hear from you.

<B>DMac</B><P>Hi there. I remember you and <B>Suse</B>! [img]images/icons/smile.gif" border="0[/img] <B>NewBegining</B> (<B>Nyvene</B> now.) and I were just reminiscing tonight...natch you two were mentioned,of course fondly.<P>I so loved your post. Thanks for sharing and encouraging the newbies.<P>Big hugs to you and <B>Suse</B> [img]images/icons/grin.gif" border="0[/img] and welcome back to the family homestead. I sure hope some of the newbies take you up on your offer.<P>My hubby and I are in recovery too. Will be three years since d-day this up coming February. You're so right there is recovery and it's way possible. Yes, lots of work.<P>Big hugs to you and <B>Suse</B> [img]images/icons/grin.gif" border="0[/img] and welcome back to the family homestead. I sure hope some of the newbies take you up on your offer.<P>Take care.<P>Oh one more thing, click on here to learn how to get your name back and not be "yes" anymore. [img]images/icons/wink.gif" border="0[/img]<P><A HREF="http://www.marriagebuilders.com/cgi-bin/ultimatebb.cgi?ubb=get_topic&f=7&t=000167" TARGET=_blank>Topic: My Nick is not being picked up but instead I am Yes???? </A><p>[ October 19, 2001: Message edited by: A blessed Samantha ]

Thank you for the wonderful positive thread...you should post it on D/D and Plan A and Plan B, heck, all OVER, to give everybody some encouragement.<P>As you can see from my signature, I have recently entered Plan B...I am okay with it, but sometimes, I just wish....well God will work that all out for me in the best way.<P>Thanks again!<P>Love and light,<P>Jacky

Hi, Hi, Hi,<P>I saw you over on K's thread too, and WHAT A DELIGHT!!!!<P>You and your wife (Suse - who I swear, I can't say her name without thinking of "Suse Pontificates" - remember that one?) are an inspiration and BELIEVE ME, you are NOT forgotten!!<P>You may not remember me, but dang gummit (is that a real word???) I remember you!!<P>It's in my sig line, but I used to be new_beginning, just to jar your memory a bit.<P>THANK YOU for dropping by, and continued SUCCESS on your marriage.<P>OH, and by the way, YES, STAY, and offer support -- we need the old-timers, especially successful ones!!!!

Yes,<P>As a new member I'd like to thank you for your post. It gives me some hope for my situation. After 30 years of marriage, I found out recently that not only was my H having an A which he reluctantly ended when it was discovered, but he has had several on again and off again affairs over the years. I was devastated and felt that I did not know this person I've been living with, this person that I love with all my heart. He offered to go to counseling and that's what we've been doing. Things are getting a little better even though I'm still hurting deeply. I feel as though the only memories of the past that really belong to me are those of my children...it's such a overwhelming sense of loss, the loss of half of my life. Again, I appreciate your post and welcome any advice you and Suse can give me to help me. Thanks.