Robin and I brokeoff the relationship in October 1999. I still have a great loos of her. When I talk with her, I am the one that calls. She says yes she still thinks of me too. I am single she is married. We even talked about meeting at the gym parking lot, just to satisfy our needs. She wont have sex with her hubby, says she cant. Well, she never showed up, scared that he will follow or find out. Our relationship was great, it was out and she tried to file. He always said he was filing but never did. I even met him and talked. Robin has kids and so do I. Small ones. He was very abusive mentally. I was very loving and affectionate. I helped her through alot of crap because I wanted too. part of me just wants the sex back another wants her back. How can I just get rid of all the thoughts. I want to move forward, but I hate being alone. I very picky of whom I date. also I very athletic and good lokking so i get looks all the time. So help me someone with the same story.

Bobby,<P>I am not in your shoes, but thought I would respond to you. Have you read any books on what affairs are about? If not you should, so that you can understand what your relationship with Robin is and was all about and what your going through right now. Unfortunately, it was not really love. What you experienced with her was a fantasy affair. Things I am sure seemed great to you while in this fantasy land, but it wasn't the real world. If you really want to get over this and learn from it so that you can have a real relationship with someone (not someone who is involved with someone else already) read some books. Dr. Harley has a good one called Surviving an Affair that you can order off this site. <P>Good luck to you and I hope you will have enough wisdom to not pursue your relationship with Robin anymore.