Robin and I brokeoff the relationship in October 1999. I still have a great loos of her. When I talk with her, I am the one that calls. She says yes she still thinks of me too. I am single she is married. We even talked about meeting at the gym parking lot, just to satisfy our needs. She wont have sex with her hubby, says she cant. Well, she never showed up, scared that he will follow or find out. Our relationship was great, it was out and she tried to file. He always said he was filing but never did. I even met him and talked. Robin has kids and so do I. Small ones. He was very abusive mentally. I was very loving and affectionate. I helped her through alot of crap because I wanted too. part of me just wants the sex back another wants her back. How can I just get rid of all the thoughts. I want to move forward, but I hate being alone. I very picky of whom I date. also I very athletic and good lokking so i get looks all the time. So help me someone with the same story.

Bobby,<BR>I commend you for trying to put this behind you and going forward with your life. <P>With utmost respect and consideration for this board I feel that they can offer you some help. I would also recommend that you visit two other board that are more suited to your situation: gloryb.com and affairs-help.com. Both of these boards are for the OP (Other Person-not married). This board is mainly for the betrayed spouse with some of the betrayers and the occasional OP. (Sorry Jim for stepping on your welcome)<P>I hope I have not offended anyone here for this post. I truly have very one's best interest at heart. I have benefited greatly from this board (mostly as a lurker).<P>Good luck Bobby.<P>

Welcome...you have come to the right spot! This board is for anyone invlved in an afair....all sides are welcome here! Although MOST tend to be the "betrayees", we are all welcome, and want to help.<BR>Please read everything you can get your hands on here, get the books if you can, and read, read, read!<BR>Good luck!<P>------------------<BR>You will be stronger because of this.<P><p>[This message has been edited by Sally (edited December 12, 1999).]