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#408811 11/29/01 04:15 PM
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Hi, Does anyone have any opinions on confronting the OW. H and I have been doing alot of talking... but I would love to see what My H is sooooo interested in after 18 years.
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#408812 11/29/01 05:12 PM
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I would love to do that myself but the lady has deceased. She later had cancer and passed away. I am sorry about that but I would love to have my say to her. I know my h ended it a long time ago but I still would like to tell her what I think about it and slap her face. I have forgiven my husband but I told him just what I thought and what I would like to say to her as well as what I said to him. I am working on my anger. It has only been a few days that I knew about the a for sure. She wanted my h to leave the family but thank God he saw he was wrong and broke it off. For this I am thankful. But yes I am like you I want to know but I am not sure it would be healthy. It may be the less you know about details the better.
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#408813 11/30/01 12:18 AM
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I would not recommend confronting the OP at all. It will not help anyone and has the possibility of causing more problems for everyone involved. I assume that the A is over, and if it is, definetly no contact with OP on your part. Also, dont ask for the gory details about the A, the simple fact that it happened should be enough, any more will only make it worse.<p>In my case, the OP is our neighbor, how many times I have wanted to 'visit' him and let him know exactly how I feel. But, I know it would be counter-productive to any chance of recovery. Dont let those thoughts control you, just concentrate on WS and the M.
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#408814 11/30/01 07:31 AM
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ditto loveherstill<p>I assume you do not already know OW and contact is still in progress. I also assume OW knows your H is married.<p>There is little to gain and everything to lose in a confrontation. Don't even snoop to get a look at her. Any action like this can be used against you by both your H and OW to demonize you and add justification to what they're doing.<p>Better yet, you don't need to confront her. By taking the moral high ground, you are doing the best "confrontation" you can. Do not stoop to her level and feed her ego.

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