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I know we have had problems, We are aware and both willing to make the changes. He came to me and told me EVERYTHING after a week of the affair(sticks in my throat). How can I love him so much and feel so bad? I have for the past year "shut down" to his needs ,because , my needs did not get addressed, so because of lack of communication , the unthinkable has happened. I forgive him, Trust him, love him , and still consider him my best friend.
How do I stop dwelling , and move on . We've Talked the entire week and have been together almost 24hrs. a day since. He is being very honest in answering my questions, understanding with my emotions, just like my best friend that he has always been. But I do not want to dwell!
I just found out T-day and think I am doing great and know it will work out!!!!
Is this normal??? ad pleas let me know it will get easier.

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TIME HEAL. TIME HEALS. You have not had enough time to deal with this. Sounds like you 2 are on the right track but don't force the healing. The "bad" feelings will go away eventually. It has been months and sometimes "the unthinkable that has happened" hits me hard and makes me cry and angry at the same time. However it happens less and less. Both of you keep up the honest communication about the good, bad and ugly feelings and needs. But take the time to heal.

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I reacted the same way when my H cheated, and a week later I went balistic on him, I just snapped. I couldn't understand how he could do that to me while I was pregnant and risk me and my childs life by sleeping with someone he only knew a short time, It's been a while and I'm still trying to deal with it. So If you get some help please help me!

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How do you cope with the rollercoaster?<p>One day at a time.
Sometimes one hour at a time.
Every now and then one minute at a time.
And a very few times (thankfully) one second at a time.

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<blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr>Originally posted by sunnyDlite:
<strong>I reacted the same way when my H cheated, and a week later I went balistic on him, I just snapped. I couldn't understand how he could do that to me while I was pregnant and risk me and my childs life by sleeping with someone he only knew a short time, It's been a while and I'm still trying to deal with it. So If you get some help please help me!</strong><hr></blockquote>

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<blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr>Originally posted by sunnyDlite:
<strong>I reacted the same way when my H cheated, and a week later I went balistic on him, I just snapped. I couldn't understand how he could do that to me while I was pregnant and risk me and my childs life by sleeping with someone he only knew a short time, It's been a while and I'm still trying to deal with it. So If you get some help please help me!</strong><hr></blockquote><p> [img]images/icons/wink.gif" border="0[/img] [img]images/icons/wink.gif" border="0[/img] TIMETHAT SEEMS TO BE WHAT PEOPLE HAVE BEEN TELLING ME!!
and by the way I went to the Dr. today for those unthinkable test , so know you are not alone and there is nothing to be ashamed of , afterall you did not do this! I know it is not easy and a friend of mine who has been through this told me when you look into his eyes you will know if you can trust, and I hope you see what I do, because that also helps me(for the moment). Because I dont think I have gone balistic yet. Also what I think helps me is that he is being so honest, and answering all of my questions, no mater how much it hurts to hear, or say on his end.


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