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#408937 12/05/01 11:19 PM
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My life just changed forever this morning. I have been married 6 years to my best friend though due to a gambling addiction on my part and his inability to forgive it has been a friendly roommate situation for the past 4 years. We have a four year old son. This morning I was invited to my mothers house with my husband for a talk, we were confronted by my mother, father, and sister -- it seems my husband sent my sister a rather explicit email to try to induce her into having an affair with him. To make matters worse, he enclosed a nude picture of himself. I was stunned to say the least and after much fussing, fuming, and crying, my husband and I left, then he admitted that she was not the only one he had sent such an email (complete with picture) too, he had also solicited my best friend. He sent both emails yesterday. In the case of my sister I was angry but understood, she is taller, younger, thinner, prettier, etc...I could justify that in my head. My best friend is 20 years older than me with a similar build - am I right to think that at that point it quit being about sex and started being some sick sort of aggression toward me that he chose the two people I am closest to in the world? I am so stupid that part of me would still forgive and forget but now he wants to proceed and get seperated as he doesn't want to face any of these people anymore. I don't know what to feel other than devestated...there is no one to talk to about this, my family all wants me to dump him but I DO love him. I am scared and just need to vent a little bit...he is asleep on the sofa downstairs, my son is in bed and now I am trying to imagine starting my life over again. I don't want to be divorced, I don't want to have to tell my son that daddy won't be living here anymore, I don't want to pick up the pieces...I just want things to go back the way they were yesterday. [img]images/icons/frown.gif" border="0[/img]

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Obviously your H is screaming out for your help. Think of it this way, did he not think at least one of the two people closest to you would not tell you about this? Of course he did. It sounds like he is despirate for your help. Is your gambling addiction under control? Are you seeking help? You need to sit him down and ask him what the real problem is, let him know you love him, you know he was screaming for help, and ask what he thinks the solution may be. If your in counseling, he needs to be part of that also. I hope I have been of at least some help, my prayers are with you!!


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