[img]images/icons/frown.gif" border="0[/img]<p>[ December 17, 2001: Message edited by: So Confused41 ]</p>

So Confused41,<p>The main important thing is "do you still want this relation despite his weekness?". Everybody could have A or EA if they choose to have one and we protect ourself from falling into one. We have to protect our relationship. Read up on 4 gifts of Love book, it is a way to protect love and relation.<p>You should not be ashamed of snooping, you are being smart to protect yourself so that you know what you are dealing with. Then you could make decisions.<p>In my opinion, you should read up as much as you can about MB concept at this site. Read up on His Need Her Need. Then answer the truthfully if you still want this relation. You are a BS, even there is not M yet. The hurt, confusion, and uncertainty are the same regardless you are marriage or not. You are betrayed in what you thought is a loving relation.<p>If you want to work on your relation, I am voting for letting him know but after you have read up on MB, specially, plan A and doing it. Use this "false profile" to monitor your progress. Put together POJA for him that is acceptable to you to protect his weakness. When you are ready, let him know that he has to make a decision to work on this relation.<p>Good luck, I guess it is better to know now than later, count your blessing.

So Confused41,<p>I don&#8217;t think I have any advice for you, but I do have a question about something that didn&#8217;t quite make sense to me. Why were you looking at E-dating sites?<p>HI

.<p>[ December 17, 2001: Message edited by: So Confused41 ]</p>

So Confused41,<p>Get busy, no idle time and even double book your calendar so that it takes your mind of it. Time will heal you but like you say it is very hard to keep focus. Read up on MB ...