I found out my husband was cheating on me about 2 months ago. I filed for divorce 1 week later. He will not sign the divorce papers because he promises me that it will never happen again and that I will be able to trust him if we do work it out. We have been married for 2 years with no children in the picture. He and this lady friend of his have only had one encounter as far as I know. She is also married. I have the husbands phone number but I don't think it is a good idea to call. The reason being is that I feel I am a better person to do all that. My mind is on our relationship and not hers. I do love him and always will but I am just not sure if the trust will ever be restored. [img]images/icons/frown.gif" border="0[/img] This is the first time that I have ever been on this site. Is there anything that I need to know? Has anyone done one of Dr. Harley's seminars??? I am not looking for an answer but just some advice that maybe I can use day to day. Any suggestions would be appreciated...Thanks

Hello I Have. I'm sorry this has happened to you. There are several people here who have some links that will be a good starting point for you. I am new here also and usually just lurk. I posted to let you know that there are lots of people here who have been through it and will give you good advice. They'll let you know where to start.

Thanks Hoping I..Very sweet to reply back.. I wish that I thought about looking into sites likes this to better my marriage before his affair.. Good luck to you and your family!!!

Thanks Hoping I..Very sweet to reply back.. I wish that I thought about looking into sites like this to better my marriage before his affair.. Good luck to you and your family!!!

Hi NC,<p>How are you doing? I posted you on Response to Perdu. I was looking for your thread. It has taken me awhile to figure out how to navigate this site [img]images/icons/smile.gif" border="0[/img] .<p>I hope all is well with you. I understand you on the trust thing. I always felt I would leave my H if he ever cheated. I guess you never know til it happens. I do believe that trust can be restored. I also believe it is incrediblity hard to re-establish. I hope you and all of us on this site can find it. Keep in touch.<p>Perdu

Dear No Clue,<p>I understand that trust can be restored, but it is going to take time. My wife also had an affair, admitting to it (D-day) on December 3. We are working through this with the assistance of MB counseling. If you want something to read which will REALLY enlighten you about the affair came about, and how to recover, order the Harley book Surviving An Affair from the bookstore on this website. Moving forward from here is going to take a "no contact" commitment from your husband, plus some recognition by you that part of the reason for the affair was EN's unfilled by you. You relationship can survive this, and likely end even stronger. It's up to you both, and sounds like you're both committed, so I'd say give it a shot. Don't become another divorce statistic.