Wife went back to work after being off for 2 years after our 3 child. A couple of months into the job, she began having an affair with co-worker/supervisor. I suspected almost immediately. She denied and covered up as discribed in Doctors letters. I even began to believe her. I found out1 - 2 days after she ended things with him mutually. So I'm told. She now is not sure if she wants to work things out and feels she wants a divorce due to problems we were having before. I am willing and wanting to work things out, but she is apathetic to me and our marriage

panaju-<p>A lot of us here know the kind of pain your are experiencing. There are a lot of other emotions too. Read all you can here on this site. Read about the 'fog' and how the WS (wayward spouse) thinks. See if your wife is willing to go to counseling. Maybe even telephone counseling with the MB people. These folks are primarily interested in moving forward in a marriage and not dwelling on the past.<p>Good luck and keep posting with your vents and questions. Right now you want to learn what your W needs and learn how to be a better panaju. Don't push her but demonstrate changes through your actions. Pushing and challanging her will only push her away from you. Create a safe place for her. Does this sound like you've got a lot of work to do and that you'll be the only one doing it? Maybe. Be prepared for the long haul. Don't forget to take deep breathes when it seems like you don't know how to go on or what do do next.<p>HoFS