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Hi Guys,
The thought of crossdressing has (crossed) my mind. LOL... Anyway here are a few facts other then just my lingeri, and street clothes disappearing. Other thing's that have disappeared.
Some of my makeup, I have found lipsticks, that were mine, and couple that I've never seen before.
Every woman who wears lipstick knows how her's wears down, mine is always a deep slant to one side, I don't turn it so that eventually it will not be onesided. These have all been flat, as if they were applied with a heavy hand, and stright down. Lipstick seems to be taken the most. I also remember when we were first married a whole bottle of perfume just disappeared, once again hindsight. Perfume has disappeared since then also. I have handcuffs hidden away, I have put on brand new pantyhose inwhich I only wore once, when I put them on the 2nd time there were heavy circular snags around each ankle. I even surprised myself as to how the 1st thought I had was (handcuffs) so I reinacted it with a pair that had never been wore. Well I was right, you should have seen my H face. His comment, your crazy. Who ever wore them with handcuffs had to have small ankles. My H is 6'2 190 lbs, Im 5'4 110lbs. In the begining I was finding sweaters stretched out beyound belief, and loaded with makeup, what woman wears so much makeup. H use to call me everyday at lunch time. he said it was to say I love you. I say it was to see if I was at home or out watching him. Then one afternoon he called me and a name and number showed up on my caller ID. There had always only been payphone number's before. I called 555-5454 to get the address, guess what it was a resadents, and a man. He works constrution, he's all over at different site's, mostly alone. (no one over his shoulder) also why it's diffacult to follow him.
When I questioned him about the phone number, see he had told me that he was working in an unoccupied buliding, so who is this person and why is the adress not the same as the buliding you claim to be working in. His explanation was, there was a phone nearby on the floor, in a office, so he decieded to use it to call quickly.
Well that same night he had to go pick up his dad at the airport, and while he was gone I called the number, guess who answer the phone in a unoccupied buliding. The guy with the same name as listed to the phone, and I also heard children.
I asked to speak with the lady of the house, hold on, there wasn't any lady of the house, she had moved out a couple of months ago. My mouth fell opened. If there isn't a lady, then who did he go there to see, and worst why. I asked if he knew my H, at first he played dumb, then he replied, oh the plumber, what! I said thats a new one on me. Since when did he start doing plumming work on the side, since when did he even know anything about plumbing! I ran to the laundry basket, and to my not so surprised eyes, there it was makeup on his clothes, see being a model I know my makeup, and if you look close in the sun, or light it has very fine sparkles in it, they are used to reflect light. I also started to noticed other new thing's from doing his laundry. Do I dare tell you what? I know what it sounds like, but I just can't believe it. When I think about how my H will say he doesn't like women who wear alot of makeup, he likes the natural look, then why did he marry me, not that I wear too much, but I do use eyeshadow, and all. The secret is knowing how to apply it, to look as if your not wearing any. But I am 100% female, femine, I love being a woman, and would never want to be a man. Everything I wear and do is totaly femine. H likes the tomboy natural look, not me at all. There is more, but H will be home soon and I have to run. If he isn't around I'll write more, or else I have to wait until Monday. Oh yes one more thing H is the most fantansic lover I have ever had. This man is so unselfish, and 100% giving when we makelove. He does everything, but what bothers me is that he barley wants me to do anything for him in bed, Why? If he were into men he wouldn't do what he does at least I would think so, what do you think?
Thanxs once again for listening.
Love, & prayers
TruthCer

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From what you've shared...I think he's cross dressing.<p>Found a Dear Abby link with some discussion of cross dressing which you might find interesting:<p>http://www.chron.com/content/chronicle/features/97/03/17/ann.html

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[img]images/icons/confused.gif" border="0[/img] Laura:
I know what it sounds like, but there have been deffinant signs of another woman, /or women.
I had made a friend when we moved into our new home 3 years ago. Unfortunatly, it wasn't my friendship she was insteresed in, it was more like my husband's income. H still denies A, even after she phoned to tell me about it, and when he got home that afternoon, and I had said, and did nothing about it, her mother showed up at my door 4 hours later asking H to come to her house to console OW who was so upset over everything. H knew nothing about what she was talking about. OW thought we were fighting about her. Wrong. My H told her mother that he couldn't come now it wasn't a good time, and slammed the door in her face. I guess OW was waiting for him to show up with bags in hand, but when 4 hours passed, and it didn't happen she sent Momma. A 35 yearold woman, sending her Momma. LOL Ofcourse he denied it all said she was nuts, and was lying because she was just jealous, because you are so beauitful and have everything she wants. Yah! sure whatever. Then I startd to find blond hair, well the OW had red, at least she did when I saw her at school on friday, our D's were in the same class! OUCH! However on Monday it was blond, the same clor I found on his clothes over the weekend.
Everytime she changed her hair color so did the hair I found in my home, SUV, his clothes, his truck ect... That was lastyear, this year it's curly browish blond (DirtyBlond) the same kind of hair the woman who drove around my block passing our house 5 time's in a row and staring at my H while he mowed the lawn. Yes you guessed it, he never saw her before in his life. Thats why before I could open my mouth to ask if he wanted a cool drink, he jumped down my throat about not knowing her. Guilty, would you say. There has been other things also. It is very confussing.

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You've been trying very hard to hold onto your sanity when something or things aren't as you're told. Please take the others advice with the tape recorder. It's another angle and may unearth something more concrete.


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