Flaca --<p>I hear you and I'm sorry for the situation that has brought you to MB. Know that you are very welcome here and that this is a very good place to be--lots of support and advice and help available.<p>Also, no matter how strange one's story is or how alone we feel with it, someone else here is living it right now, so good help is on the way!<p>BTW: You'll get more responses to your post if you repost this over in the General Questions II forum, which is the most active. But there are people in this one also so you can get some suggestions here too. It's the logical place to post with your problem but GQII is a real general-purpose forum with all kinds of situations; yours would fit right it!<p>I think it's great that you're in counseling for both the reasons you stated: for you and because your H doesn't think you can do what needs to be done--you'll show him! Counseling's a smart move.<p>Things are more complicated when OW lives so close, contact is inevitable (at least in your kids' school), and your H is continuing to work with OW = makes life harder by far. However, I think you are showing strength and direction and have a solid grasp of your situation. <p>Is your H planning to continue to work with OW?
Is he still involved in the EA?
Has it turned into a PA?
What is his response when you've confronted him?
Does he want to continue with you?<p>I'm very glad that you're in recovery! Tell us some more of your story so that we can be of more specific help. Thirteen years together is a big investment and two children make it even more important to work this out.<p>Please know that you're among friends here and that we care about you and how you're getting through it. Post again (even in the other forum) and tell us how you're doing. <p>Ammon
