I've been here for awhile now-as a WS looking for recovery, thinking all the time at least my H didn't cheat ON me. Well, guess who got shocked tonight?
Seems that when he left last year, he left with the intention of taking up a relationship (he says no sex--but did admit to kissing, probably a lot of grabbing, knowing him) with someone he met on a job. He was really going to divorce me and have a full-blown WHATEVER. However, very shortly after he left me, she was deported. (HA! Can we say 'green card needed'?) He was gone three weeks total, then came home. He refuses to see this as an affair--because it was a year ago and they didn't have sex. So I guess when my a is more than a year over, I'll be absolved? Didn't think so. And I only did oral sex, does that change anything? Another nope, I guess. <p>How can I know if he thinks of her when he's with me, wishing she was still here? I don't think he's tried to reconnect with her but this knowledge is killing me now. This is one of those times when ignorance would be bliss. I guess this is my penance (some of it, anyway) for being a WS. Now I'll never know if he came back because he does love me or because it went phhht elsewhere. I don't even want to sleep with him tonight. But then again, I want to crawl into his arms and assure myself that he does love me. I'd rather be an earthworm that reproduces alone and needs no one else!<p>Karma sucks.

diddallas
No one no matter what they did deserves this kind of pain. Payback? Did H know of your A? Or is it what goes around comes around? Or just Bad Luck?
You've been such a help to so many others it's your turn to recieve. Can you Plan A? Does he love you? Sounds like you love him and that's half the battle. You go girl. And keep posting. We care [img]images/icons/smile.gif" border="0[/img]