When I found out about the girl, (OW is 21 H is 35) I wasn't surprised, I had heard things from people through my entire pregnancy but tried to lie to myself to cover it up. D-Day was November 17th, just as I watch my favorite boxer smash his opponent, I wanted to smash H's head in front of all of his friends who were at our house for the party. I was told by a 14yr old friend of my stepdaughter that my H had a girlfriend. The past 2 months have been so hard, My baby, born in August has a heart defect and had surgery during all this. We have had sex 3 times since he left, and I called the girl and told her, she thinks I am lying, I want her to hurt like I do, I want him to be kicked out of her house and be sorry that he crossed me. I want to hate him, I do hate her. I have to let my Children go and stay with him at her house every other week and my 3yr old wont even talk to me when I call him because they are always listening in. I know he is just using her waiting till he gets bored. We are attending a relationships workshop together but he is still with her. Am I Stupd? Why cant I let go? I went out and he came into the club I was at and harrased me and a man I was dancing with, then spit in my face, was he jelouse? I am confused, he is just twisting my head up.

givingtoomuch,<p>Welcome to MB. I thought someone will reply to your post but everyone is busy. Please learn about MB as much as you can. Follow the link on my signatures, you will learn about EN, LB, LB$, plan A/B. Post your profile and email too if you want it so other could help you better. Learn as much as you can then post some questions. <p>I really sympathize with what you are going through. Yes, H is being a jerk and having the cake and eat it too. However you should not lower you self by going out with someone. You should work on your marriage problem and if doesn't work you could end it in Dv then move on. MB will help you to save your M and if doesn't work you owe it to your self to move on. MB prepares you for that.<p>Your H is typical male, territorial. Don't get into reading too much on what he is doing or saying. Learn as much as you can about plan A then follow this link to string H back. However you have to do plan A first.<p>Good luck.<p>[ January 23, 2002: Message edited by: redhat ]</p>