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I need some more help. I think she was with the OM recently. I found "dirty" clothing and wish to verify my suspicions. Are there any ways to do so? Any chemicals or tests to identify semen? If she is living with me, I need to know if she is running around with the OM. I will think about asking her counselor about that advice. For now, I guess I will just give her a lot of space.
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<blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr>Originally posted by Longing: <strong>I need some more help. I think she was with the OM recently. I found "dirty" clothing and wish to verify my suspicions. Are there any ways to do so? Any chemicals or tests to identify semen? If she is living with me, I need to know if she is running around with the OM. I will think about asking her counselor about that advice. For now, I guess I will just give her a lot of space.</strong><hr></blockquote><p>Yes, there is check my reply to TrueCher She use it and it work. It is called checkmate. Actually it work better for WW since we, male could produce it our self. <p>Good luck, be ready w/ the answer.<p>[ January 29, 2002: Message edited by: redhat ]</p>
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Thanks redhat, what if he used a condom? Is there a way to test for spermicide?
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Well, she told me that she will not be home tonight at her normal time. I don't know where she will be going or what time she will be home. She does not tell me. I really hope she is being honest with me and is not continueing to see the OM.<p>I will be going to church tonight to help with some assorted stuff so I will at least not be alone.<p>I pray that she is not seeing him. As long as she is no longer involved with him, I think I can last a while. I don't think my sanity can handle the idea that she is living in my house and actively involved in another relationship.
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<blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr>Originally posted by Longing: <strong>Thanks redhat, what if he used a condom? Is there a way to test for spermicide?</strong><hr></blockquote><p>Not yet, but you might want to send a sugestion to checkmate. I am not a chemist but there should be a way.<p>I would not trust her, she cheated you once, you have to help her to protect your M. Snoop if you have to but be ready with the answer. Accounting all time & money are very crucial.<p>[ January 29, 2002: Message edited by: redhat ]</p>
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I can't account for time without it being a major LB. She is using more cash (or is having other people pay for things) so tracking money will not be as easy either.
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How about voice activated recorder in the car ? ... cell phone detail bill ?. if you want it to get fancy you could buy GPS and tag it in the trunk, it will record all the coordinate that she goes to. When WS is not open, all avenue should be explore. Even hiring PI or family memebr to tail her.
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I hear what you are saying...I too am in this same situation. I am afraid of pushing my husband by initiating contact, and I am afraid that not contacting him will allow him to just put me out of his mind. I wish that there was a good answer to your question, if you find something successful please let me know. A good friend of mine who has been where we are told me that as time goes by we as the BS feel that our WS is growing farther away from us, when in truth they are moving closer to us. ( I guess the fog just needs time to clear). I will keep you in my prayers.
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She has told me the affair is over but I think it is ongoing. If she is living with me, I need to know it is over (for my own sanity). I fear that she is simply living with me until she is ready to move on. I need to know if she is really give me an honest chance to change. I remember previously reading a post about some software that you can install that will capture key strokes. If anyone knows about such, please post it here. Thanks.
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