I met what I though was my soul mate 8 months ago. We met while he was on business in New York where I lived at the time. We fell in love quickly and within 3 months he proposed. I gave up my entire life, a successful career, my home, my friends to come and join him in Chicago. We got married last September. About a month after we married I got a disturbing phone call from an ex of his informing me of what a snake he is and that they had slept together several times since we have been married. She even denied knowing that we were married. After that I started investigating only to find more disturbing instant messenger conversations he was having with other women. He travelled for week every week so keeping a close eye on him was difficult and he looked up women in all the places he was going to be. I confronted him about these things and he was able to talk his way out of it. I still wasn't completely convinced though and know that he is still talking with women online.
We have now moved to California, completely across the country from my former home. I now just discovered perhaps the most disturbing messages of all. Conversations with women close to here telling them he is single and trying to arrange dates for casual sex. Also he is looking up escort services. He tells these women what he wants to do to them when he sees them. I am in complete shock. Everyone tells him how lucky he is to have such a beautiful and smart wife, why is he jeapordizing our marriage. He also tells me how lost he would be without me. I'm at the point where I am believing that he is a snake with multiple personalities, however I don't take the concept of marriage lightly and am determined to work this out. I am afraid to tell him that I've still been snooping, he was very upset the first time. I've given up everything to be with him, now I'm completely lost, how do I deel with this?

nelwood,<p>welcome to MB ... reading your post, I really ashame having the same thing between my leg with your husband. Learn as much as you can about MB. Learn about EN, LB, LB$, plan A/B. There are links on my sig. follow it for information. Get SAA and HNHN read it.<p>About snooping, you should do it for your own research to see how much problem you are into. Never confront H about it.<p>You might have to face more than infedelity but also character flaws. H might be a sexual addict. If you want to save your M, read and learn MB as much as you can. Counsel w/ MB if you could afford it.<p>Keep posting for questions and updates.

you need answers for your own piece of mind.<p>IMO, record and print all the online evidence. Keep it somewhere safe.<p>And is it possible for you to hire someone to watch him? I would want undesputable evidence.<p>I've been involved with a man who could talk his way out of anything I found online.