I've been posting over at EN's, but my story in brief:<p>Found out about A last Saturday 'by accident' when I found SMS message on phone and immediately rang her.
H says there has been no sex, just talking (5 meetings in 6 month).
OW is Thai and speaks 10 words of English. Her visa runs out in a couple of weeks.
H did EN questionnaire with me and has unconvincingly said he wants to work it out.
H has decided to stay in the city for a couple of nights to see what its like to be without me - I am panicking and trying to remain calm.
I am lonely at home, there is not much to do around her and have no friends or family in this place as they've all moved interstate (bar one).
I know I've not been listening to what the big problems are (ie Not enough SEX), and that I don't make him feel special. I realise that work places a lot of pressure on both of us, and i don't cope so well with the stress. This means I am not always the sweet loving wife that I would like to be, and not always 'in the mood'. <p>I want him back badly, I feel sick, can't eat and I just want him to tell me he's coming home. I have resisted telling him what to do, but did stress him out this morning when he called - he said he still dosen't know if he wants to come home and that i shouldn't push him-did I blow it? I don't know. I've ordered the HNHN book and intent to study it till it falls apart. I want him back! <p>Could someone tell me when you stop feeling sick please?

Seahorse,<p>It is good you take the first step, deciding that you want to save your M. It will be a painfull one, as you feel it now and more but at the end we will be a better spouse. Order also SAA. Most of the content is here, and go through Q&A section of infedelity. Below my signature there is quick link for BS by WAT, please read it.<p>Get medication to help you out, you need more than healthy body to take the 'coaster ride. By now hope you know ENs, LB, LB$, plan A/B otherwise you should read them.<p>Keep us posted for questions & updates. Time will make your body adapt to the emotional taruma that hit you now.

I am feeling better today as H has been keeping contact while he's 'away' thinking. Secretly though I feel that the news will be bad when he comes home tomorrow. Why? I don't know, I just do. What if he decides we can't be together? What then? <p>He says there has been no contact with OW and I believe him. But tonight he's out drinking to oblivion. I hope he behaves- basically i'm showing trust, but not feeling it 100%.<p>I wish I could turn back time and undo all the things I have done to contribute to this, them maybe history would be different, but I can't I only have now to work with, and basically its one day at a time from here on. <p> [img]images/icons/shocked.gif" border="0[/img]

<blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr>Originally posted by Seahorse:
<strong>...He says there has been no contact with OW and I believe him. But tonight he's out drinking to oblivion. I hope he behaves- basically i'm showing trust, but not feeling it 100%.</strong><hr></blockquote>
Is there any drinkig problem here ?. You might also seek help on Annon. In "trust", I do not trust my WS while in A. Their selfishness clouded their judgement.<p> <blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr><strong>I wish I could turn back time and undo all the things I have done to contribute to this, them maybe history would be different, but I can't I only have now to work with, and basically its one day at a time from here on. </strong><hr></blockquote>
Yes, plan A and hope & pray for a better future [img]images/icons/grin.gif" border="0[/img]