Do you think there can be recovery when the WS sees the OW everyday at work? Given the benefit of the doubt that there may not be any interaction, but just the visual and memories of the EA and ultimately PA? The D-day is fresh, just 12/01. She wants to try again with her H, so
WS backed off not by choice. Letter found says he has deep love for OW, but will not stand in her way. Is trying to be nice to me, but I feel he is just bidding his time to see if it works out for her. Is it possible to be in love with 2 W at the same time? I highly doubt it. Any thoughts? Would greatly appreciate any response, am trying very hard with plan A.

Ica,<p>I'm very sorry for the position you are in! I really don't have any suggestions, but wanted to bump this up.<p>My WH had a PA with his coworker 3 months ago and although it appears they keep their distance (never any emotions attached, just lust) I cannot handle the fact that they are together every day. I brought the affair to their bosses attention immediately and they were both counseled. She told me she fears she'll lose her job if anything else happens.<p>I wish you success in your healing and recovery!

ICA,
Sorry, your in a tough spot.If you look around here you will find it very seldom works out with ANY continued contact, the temptation is just too great.
Very few people her have been succesful with continued contact.
My H still works with OW. He has occasional contact, maybe 1-2 times a month for a few hours. I cannot say he is stronger than others, or I for that matter. Because of some unusual circumstances it has worked out for us. The day after my dday OW got transfered away for 6 months ( can you say act of God?). Also she is now having another affair with another married man at work which has shed light on the way my H views her. (no! she really could have lied???)
My H freely admits that if initially he had continued working with her he could not have resisted temptation.
He also professed loving her. He went through withdrawal. His affair lasted 2 months, withdrawel 6 weeks at its worst. He never stopped loving me, so I guess you could say he "loved" two woman at once. BUT now he looks back and see's he was in "LOVE" with the way he felt when having A - no children no bills, 100% of her attention, he felt special, and thought she would do anything for him.
Look for the arcticle " How affairs start" and "how they shpould end" print them out for your H. My H said it explained exactly how he felt.

Ica:<p>I sympathize with what you are going thru. My H had an EA (no professed love, but close intimate talks)with OW who is a co-worker. Unfortunatley, H sees OW everyday. <p>D-day was 9/00 and I'm still in recovery. I don't know if I will be completely recovered, but since he has chosen to cut any contact with OW besides work, I have chosen to work on the relationship also.<p>Be patient!!<p>

• Married 13 years
  2 D's 10 & 8
  WH had EA: D0day 9/00
  In recovery

I personally don't think it's a good idea at all. My former best friend had an EA and PA with my husband. She worked for him and her H was and is my H's partner. Her H moved her office to a different floor so they would have no contact. What a joke. He still managed to write to her everyday at work, give her flowers, make out with her at the office, have sex with her at various locations, etc. I think the 'thrill' of pretending not to see each other made it more exciting. Also the chance of getting caught. <p>He finally got his head on straight months later and found her a different job, 10 miles away. We ended up being separated for 9 months and it's been a very hard thing to get through. If they had continued to work together, I don't think we'd be together now. After all, it's only human nature to be at your best at work...dressed nicely, polite, etc. My advice would be to try and figure out a way that they don't work anywhere near each other. It proved too tempting for my H. Good luck