After two months of being friends with a co-worker, my husband had sex twice with her. Once in a hotel, and once in his office. I confronted him after seeing phone bills, and he confessed. He called her with me there and told her to stop calling him and that he was sorry that anything happened. He said he was committed to our relationship and could no longer be even friends with her.
This was in early Jan and she is not only harrassing him at work but also myself via our home email. In haste, I called her husband and faxed him the phone bills. ( I know, my mother already yelled at me 50 times for this, it wasn't my place.) Because this was the third time she cheated, her husband is divorcing her, selling their home, and none of the kids will even speak to her. Now that she feels she has nothing to lose, she is making it her mission to ruin my husbands life by trying to come between us and making sure he has nothing like she does. She says it is all his fault for not lying to me. She is making up things and leaving me messages on his voicemail at work. (He told her I had his passwords to everything, and he changed his cell so she can't call him that way.) She has already said she wished my children were old enough to hurt. So this is what we are dealing with. This week she made a scene when he refused to speak with her in his office. She cleared everything off his desk to the floor for him. Obviously if either of them goes to hr they would likely both lose their jobs. He is looking for another job big time, but in the meantime I am not sure how to handle it. We are both in therapy individually and as a couple. We cannot file a restraining order without work becoming involved (at least I am assuming that) and at a time when I am trying to heal and work through what I need to I don't need a woman on a mission to ruin my or my husbands life. <p>They were just co-workers, in different departments so there is no who had the power issue. The problem is that they did have sex in the building during working hours. (Why do I feel like I should be on Jerry Springer, LOL.) Just in case you were wondering, my picture was on his desk. What a lovely thought. Anyway.... <p>I hold OW accountable for nothing that my H chose to do. Why he chose to enter EMR is his issue and what he and I need to work through to figure out how to work through all this is our issue. It is all difficult enough to deal with, I don't need a crazed OW thinking my husband and I don't get to be happy since she is not.
