Hi I originally posted in pregnancy/child but really should have posted here. Here is part of my story .I have been married for 15 years and have a 14 year old son. A few weeks ago I found out that my Husband had an affair which produced another son. How I found this out was we moved in with his Mother and In our new bedroom closet she left a package of photos of this womanm and a new born baby well I did not say anything at the time and just placed them on her bed. Needless to say we moved in with her in October and this is February.A few weeks ago my husband was having an argument with his sister and I was also on the phone and she mentioned the woman well I put 2 and 2 togheter and confronted him with the pictures. He denied the whole thing saying he has only me and my son. Well my husbands birthday was Feb. 15 th and we had a few drinks together needless to say he confessed to the whole afair. It is a baby boy who is around 2 years old now,he has never seen him and has no desire to .His mother my mother in law sees him though .I am so devastated as we always wanted another child but we are not able to have one ,I know he is also devastated as he also wanted another child but not with another woman. For now he claims he does not want anything to do with the child ,he says when she told him he told her to get rid of it and left her then...How do I go on in life now that the truth is out? How can I live with his mother who will continue to see this woman? I do not feel like living in this house now ....Any words of encouragement will help...Let me also add this woman was a freind of us both we went to school with her and took her and her 1st child by another man in our home and let her stay with us for a few weeks .

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Hi,<p>Welcome to MB and you are right to post your story in the preg/child site. I am going to now ask you to make 1 more move. Post a link to this thread in GQII. More support traffic there and between preg/chld and GQII, you will have more responses. Weekends are a bit slow but we are here. <p>You caught me between house chores (rather be on a break with MB but I do like a clean house....) [img]images/icons/smile.gif" border="0[/img] <p>You sound like your are still in shock and rightly so. Read what you can. There is a post about some MB info on GQII under my name. I have bumped it up to today and it is a welcome pkg to new MBers. Read what you can at your own pace. <p>Your H has a lot to reconcile with. You know the OW so what is the current status? Is your H willing to go to counseling to deal with this issue? So many questions, but take them a little at a time. Some of it may have to be reflective time for you and he may test your patience. <p>I will try to check back later. <p>Take Care,
L.

gdavis617,
Your problem sounds exactly like mine would a few more years from now. "Fortunately", I found out sooner. On the 28th of Feb the OW sent me an email (CCd to my partner) telling me that she is pregnant. So, here I am. Freaking out and totally devastated. I left him and flew down to Florida to be with my family. Do I stay or do I go? It seems the answer should be simple but in reality it doesn't feel simple. I don't know what to do. She also is a "friend" and she says she won't have an abortion because she feels the baby inside of her and could never do that. The thought of that statement makes me cringe. I have actually talked to her to get her to really think about what she is doing. Bringing an unwanted child out of wedlock into an already single mother's life who is having enough trouble taking care of her child that she has already. She won't do it. We weren't going to have children until we were ready. I feel sick. But, and I know how cliched and stupid this sounds, I love him and want to know if there is any chance I could work this out. If you want to talk to me by email, please do. I am at sillynora@post.com

thanks for all of the input .. I come to this site about 10 times a day and just read all of the information. My H is really trying to make up for what he did to us as a matter of fact he even apologized for a small outburst the other day something he never does he really is trying to shelter me from the devastion. He is trying really hard to consider my feelings . The bad part for me is this happened a while ago and I had no clue although now I look back and can remember all of the hang up phone calls we received around that time. Every day is a challenge with in my self as I feel nausua every day when waking. Did anyone else have or have the feeling of nausua when waking ? We have not seen a Mc yet as we currently have no Health Insurance. That is all for now I will write more when I feel a little better . Thanks for listening.
Gina