Hello everyone:<p>In my message before I described you that my husband felt in love with a woman from the Internet and is going to go to meet her sometime.
It will depends when she is ready to meet him. (this is like slow death for me)
He doesn't want to stop calling her, send messages in the Internet and he even going to send her some presents.
Of course he says that this is all my fault, he remember all the bad things which were in our marriage. I feel unloved, lonely and empty. I am crying all the time.
I cann't not to cry when I see his attitude to me and to that other woman. And he says that he doesn't want ever in his life to discuss again his relationships with that woman, that he will do what ever he thinks he should do with that woman. And if I want discuss it then our marriage is over.
But how we even can work on our marriage with this attitude?
Please advise me what should I do now?
I don't have any wish to be kind and loving wife when he is in love with other.
Do you think I should stop crying when he is around and act like nothing happened?
Maybe separation will help both of us? If we would live apart then at least I would try to imagine that he thinks about me and maybe I will not be so sad. And for him that would be time to think what he wants in life?
Please, please, please, I feel like my happy life is over. I don't need any other man in my life but I cann't be around man who doesn't love me.

Hi.<p>Sorry that you are going through this. My H also had an EA with someone he met online -- chatting constantly, e-mailing and sending presents. I couldn't believe it. I installed spy software on his computer and found out the extent of this.<p>Yes, I know you are hurt and feel like hurting him back. That is how I felt. Also, when I first found this site, I couldn't believe the advice -- I should try to meet his needs!!!!! He was the one who messed up. <p>But, I can tell you I started a Plan A. And after a lot of ups and downs over the past 10 weeks things are going better. H move out temporarily, then moved back home. We are going to counseling. I am reading SAA -- it is great. <p>Since I am new here, I really do not have much advice, except to read everything here -- read others posts. They really have helped me keep my sanity. It's funny how we all seem to be living the same life. Also, get ready for the roller coaster. Everyone is absolutely right about that.<p>Hang in there. You are not alone.

Hi,<p>Welcome to MB. Your story and feelings are very familar. Please read OneGoing's posts. They are links to the threads and help lines offered here at MB. You will also be encouraged to read books like Surviving an Affair and His needs/her needs.
Both books are by Dr Harley. <p>
From the sound of your H, you probably should read Dr James Dobson's book: Love must be Tough. <p>Your H is being disrespectful of you. You can take your current pain and shock and turn it into a learning experience of how to see what is really going on in our life and how you can better yourself. That will help you put things in perspective . <p>In the meantime, learn about plan A and B. Then learn if your H is not respecting you, how to protect yourself and let him go find out what it is really like to give up a marriage for a stranger than stranger OW. Really how can you have respect for either person if they are willing to give up their families for total strangers? <p>For now, work on you. If you can arrange for a phone counseling session with Steve Harley or Jennifer C or a local counselor. <p>You can't really tell your H what to do. Distance yourself if it is hurting yourself too much. Let your H know you love him but his actions are clearly too painful. Don't let him blame you more than you should accept. <p>L.