Interesting find! i just did a research paper on sexual addiction. As with anything..how much of what makes an addiction? Ill give u a few things to look at and a few sites to go to and u can make that decision.
#1..There are five elements of which must be present for a behavior to be labeled as an addiction.<p>1. cant stop despite negative consequences
2. presense of an mood alterted state (withdrawal)
3. strong element of denial
4. behavior is cronic and escalates because of tolerance.
5. occurance of withdrawal symptoms.<p>**for the sex addict** (sexualrecovery.com)
For the sex addict, sexual behaviors that are secretive, illicit or dangerous carry an even greater internal experioence of intensity or arousal(high) which thus encourages irrational choices. This is no different than the compulsive gambler who will gamble far beyond his/her limit to do so, aroused and distracted by the intensity of the process. Some sexual behaviors that my represent an addictive disorder are :<p>*multiple extramarital affairs
* using a postition of power to gain sexual access to multiple partners
*Use of prostitutes
*Indecent phone calls
*Excessive expenditure of time and money on porn/cyber/phone sex.
*multiple anonymouse sexual encounters
*touching others without permission.
*problem behavior isnt an isolated occurance.
*despite past consequences behavior continues.
*compulsivity-loss of control of behavior
obsession- with obtaining or participating in behavior.<p>Here are some links:<p>www.sexualrecovery.com/sri_doc/public.html
http://www.sharonohara.com/Pages/article01.html
http://rf-web.tamu.edu/files/SECGUIDE/Eap/Sex.htm
http://www.hcsac.org/disclosure/htm
http://www.sexhelp.com/sa_q_and_a.ctm<p>Hope this was helpful.<p>mercy

Would you consider this a sexual addiction? My H was having a PA with a co-worker on his lunch breaks for 1 1/2 yrs while still having sex with me. We only saw each other on weekends so we tried to have sex a min of once a week sometimes more. Recently I found some porn movies while cleaning that I did not know of. I questioned him as to when he would watch them (I suspected with her because it wasn't with me) he said sometimes after work (2nd shift) while I was sleeping he would watch them. I then asked if he would masterbate to them which he replied no. (I don't know if a man can watch these without having to take care of themselves). He said he didn't tell me about the movies because he didn't want me to think he was perverted. He had movies before we met and rarely we would watch them together, but I was upset he would purchase more and hide it from me. Could he be addicted to sex? I asked him and he said no.

An addiction HAS to have certain elements. EVERYONE has different sex drives. Some religious people would say that YES he does because he is into porn. the real questions are this:<p>Does he deny he has a problem?
Does he masterbate excessively?
Does he have sex without care of consequences?
If he stays away from OP and Porn does he go through withdrawals?
can he stop what he is doing without problems?<p>MOST people do NOT admit to masterbation. It is a subject that is absolutely "taboo". so trying to get an answer out of him for that is probably beating a dead horse. HOwever, can a man look at porn and not masterbate? yeah, for a time, but there has to be a release. My brotherinlaw has a sexual addiction problem and he will be the first to tell you that when porn is a main stay of your sexuality, u masterbate. PERIOD. Masterbation wont be enough, it goes into other women, excessive women, ETC ETC.. <p>the fact that he keeps so much secretive indicates a problem.<p>hope this helps.
mercy

Thanks going by your reply I can confidently say he is not a sex addict. He doesn't watch the movies often at all. When I found them the receipts were dated a year apart. He doesn't go through any kind of withdrawal either. Going by your first posting, he doesn't fit the profile either.