I sure hope that someone here can give me some advice and quick. I recieved a phone call last week from a man telling me to pull up a html add., and to look at the profile. I did as he asked and was shocked to pull up the add. and find a picture of a man in womans apparel from the neck down. The body build of this man is so similar to my H's that I immediately went into a panic attack. I printed the picture and also confronted him with it, he says that it is not him and that someone is trying to set him up or something. Unfortunately I do not have a color printer and when I went to get the photo blown up, I lost resolution. I need to match different marks on the arms and legs and cannot with a b/w photo. Does anyone know where I can go to get internet access to get a color image? Please help. I don't know what to do. I really think that this is him, but have no way of proving it unless I can compare scars and so on. I do not want to believe that it is him, but there are so many similarities that I cannot sit back and not investigate the matter. I am losing it really quick here and need some answers sooner than later. The reason that this is so important to me is not that he might be a cross-dresser, that I think I could get past. Its that also in the profile, he talks about having sex with other men. We have 9 children and I cannot risk their lives any more than I can risk mine. If this is true, I need to be healthy for them and not in fear of a STD. Thank you up front for any advice you can give me. He is almost to defensive for this not to be him.

Who is the man who called you? Can you find out more?
Maybe you can go to Kinko's and print out the page via high resolution color printer?
If your husband has a cell phone, try to research the numbers he's been calling. Likewise try to check the history of his internet visits if possible. There is software that can help you track what someone is doing on the internet. Do you have access to his computer?
Do you have any reason to suspect your husband's sexuality? Any nagging fears or suspicions.
Talk to him, in a kind and understanding way. Tell him how important honesty is.
You also might ask him to be tested for STDs before continuing to have sex with him. Maybe in a nice way. "I'll just feel more secure if we do this, I'm willing to get tested too. I want to be able to feel comfortable when we're having sex..."
Get him tested for AIDS, Hepatitis B and C, syphilis, gonorrhea etc. Also, if you're not vaccinated against Hep B, get vaccinated!
I think it's valid to have concerns. Usually where's there's smoke, there's fire. If your fears are unfounded, your husband should be willing to allay them by allowing you access to his e-mail, computer and phone bills, and getting tested...
Act to protect your health, this is serious, and gay sex is high risk. You may love your H but you can not risk your health as a mother of nine.

I believe the man that called me is most likely one of 2 men that he works with. I know both of their voices so it has to be someone else, maybe someone they put up to doing this. We are currently in marriage counseling as this started a few months back when I found out that he was accessing escort services on the web. My H has a history of addiction to escort serv. But has denied any activity other than the visits to the sites out of curiousity since we married 2 yrs ago. I know that the 2 other men in his office at one point had access to his email accts. He confronted them 2 weeks ago asking them if they were corresponding with escorts, of course they denied too...But then all of the sudden I get this phone call. The weird part is that the html box that has the picture was updated 2-2-02 and I did not confront him until the 8th. So, to say they are trying to set him up is in my opinion a rediculious thought. Up until now, I have never had any doubts as to my H sexuality. We have always had a great sex life. When I brought this up in our counseling session this last Monday, he got so defensive that the counselor even told him he was sounding like a guilty man. I asked him to let me compare his body to the picture and he refuses saying he will have no part of that. That it is humilating and degrading and how dare me think that he could be a pervert. He says that it is bad enough that I would think that he would be with a hooker and now this. All I want is the truth. What ever the outcome is, it is. I know there is nothing I can do to change this if it is him, I just need to know. I told him on Thurs. that I could no-longer make love to him until I knew absolutely for sure that it is not him. He said he understands, but that if I was trying to get him to his breaking point, that I have succeeded. That comment from him just pisses me off. I have been going through a living hell, wondering if he wants men more than me. What about my breaking point. Opps, sorry, I am rambling now. As far as the picture, I tried high resolution, but because of it being b/w, it really did not help. Do you know if I can get internet access at a library or somewhere to get a color print-out? thanks

You might have problems at a library because this web site could be restricted due to sexual content. I think your best bet could be a Kinko's- I know they have computers and print out capabilities with high resolution color. They also have employees there that can help you. Go to one that's far from your home so that if you have to explain anything they won't know you. Most likely you can print it out anonymously. but if you need assistance and they see the picture at least they don't know you.