Well, I am still alive. I don't know how I have survived 2 months of this HE??. I don't know if I can survive much longer. Things are changing....I don't know if it is positive or negative change. I am working on ME. My marriage will have to come second.<p>Frustration is so common. I pray for strength to continue each day. It is very difficult to be positive and happy during such a trying time. LBing is very hard to avoid. I continually want to question W if the A is continuing. I think it is EA now, but have no way of knowing. Everything is so crazy. Productivity at work is terrible and I don't know which way to turn. Everything that seemed to help in the past is becoming routine...including posting here. Nothing seems to help. <p>Yeserday was good. W said that things looked positive for our M, but would not elaborate. Said she had a hard day and the brightest point was our lunch together. [img]images/icons/rolleyes.gif" border="0[/img] <p>If I only knew if things would work out. I am trying like HE?? to make things better and it is taking its toll on me. <p>Just needed to vent.

I Spy,<p>Assume the worst and have no expectations or lower expectations. It work for me on thinking on my WW's plan or behavior. Assume EA is still going on and assume PA is going on, focus still on you.<p>If you feel burn out ... stay away from this forum and take a break. Also take a break from the situation, take a mini vacation to reward yourself. I did it during the Easter Weekend, going out of town and away. [img]images/icons/grin.gif" border="0[/img] <p>-RH-

I spy--I'm just impressed you know all the lingo in here. I'm struggling to decipher! Your message caught my eye because it's been about two months for me too. Are the two of you living together? I let my husband back in after a month. Only because I love him, we have a 5 year old son and the "A" has been over for a year and half. We're in therepy and he's doing all the right things...whatever that means. He had a romantic affair with one of my close friends. She was after him in a major way and knew exactly how to work him. It lasted for a year. A few months before it ended my "h" told me that he didn't want the responibility of me and my son anymore so I went to counceling. Who do you think I convided in during that time...the "ow"...my good, good friend. This whole thing is sick. I struggle with the betrayal everyday. I'm tired too of this emotional rollercoaster. When do you think it will get better? Hang in there. Just wanted you to know you're not alone.--b.trayed

I sure know what you mean about productivity at work. Does anyone have any tips on how to focus so we can do our jobs? Not sure how long my boss will be patient.

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