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What to do when he is a trigger?
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I'm trying very hard not to dwell on his A but it seems when I look at him all I can think is why? how could you? you're not who I thought you were. Will I get past this? I don't do it all the time but if we are quiet maybe at the dinner table or watching tv I'll look at him and I get flooded with these thoughts. Is this normal? <p>
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STY,<p>Yes, this is normal. It will get better with the passage of time. The healing process is very slow. That is the hardest part of this. It is one thing to forgive, another to forget. You probably never will forget, but the pain will be less after time. <p>Hang in there. Work hard on the M. Get through the bad times the best you can.<p>FHO
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Yeah, bloody oath your normal! <p>I read in the 5 love languages (which I highly recommend) that forgiveness is not a feeling its a commitment. This was helpful to me, as I was waiting to forgive him, but it wasn't happening. <p>I was having similar thought to you. Thinking about things they may have done, etc. I'm realising its not so productive and that I have to distract myself from it. Its not easy, you have to work really hard, but try to do it for your own sake.
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<blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr>Originally posted by Strongerthanyesterday:
<strong>I'm trying very hard not to dwell on his A but it seems when I look at him all I can think is why? how could you? you're not who I thought you were. Will I get past this? I don't do it all the time but if we are quiet maybe at the dinner table or watching tv I'll look at him and I get flooded with these thoughts. Is this normal?
</strong><hr></blockquote><p>I have the same thoughts. [img]images/icons/frown.gif" border="0[/img]

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