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My husband just told me about 2 nights ago that when he went out of the state 2 weeks ago to take care of some military business that he had sex with another woman that was in the military that he had met on the beach while he was there. He told me he was so sorry for what he had did and that he truly knows how bad that he messed up. He says that he loves me with all of his heart,and that he hates that I am hurting. He has been so good to me the past two days, I think he is so guilty about what he did. He says if I can't be with him that is fine. I told him that I would not leave him because I love him. I know dwelling on what he did is not going to do this marriage any good. So what do I do?? Do I just leave well enough alone and be happy for what I do have? The funny thing is I just do not know what I feel about what happened.Is this normal?
I do not want to ruin our marriage by thinking about this all of the time, but everytime that I look at him now I just can't get this vision out of my head of him with this woman. Any help would be appreciated.
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angielt:<p>That your H came to you about this is a very good sign. But the fact that it was physical with someone your H clearly doesn't know means you both should get tested for STDs (unless you haven't had sex with him since his encounter, in which case HE should be tested, and you should wait for the results!)<p>Read all you can from this website and this forum about affairs, and you and your H have a very good chance of recovering from this awful hurt!<p>Good luck!
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Welcome angielt...<p>There is a post of general welcome I wish to share with you... [img]images/icons/cool.gif" border="0[/img] <p>It has a lot of quick links to many of the most important MB sites... Click here ==> General Welcome for All New Builders(Newbies)<p> About your post...<p>Very often with a truly contrite WS... ...bringing them up on the MB pricnciples is good approach... ...ideally with some counseling if at all possible.<p>Do start on a Plan A... Check out the post Plan A - 101 (2nd ed.).<p>And... ...if you spouse desires to know what you are doing... ...give him the "Give & Take: The Secret to Marital Compatibility" book... one of my favorite.<p> [img]images/icons/smile.gif" border="0[/img] <p> Jim / NSR
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